no, crazyAre you still friends with your ex?
No, I am not friends with any of my ex's. If it was a significant relationship, then there are still feelings involved, not love necessarily, but hurt and having been let down. Possibly his girlfriend's ex wasn't a ';significant'; relationship??? My boyfriend is friends with one of his ex's but they only went out for 2-3 months and have friends in similar circles. Sounds like your ex is expecting you to be something you're not, just because his girlfriend has a good relationship with her ex - doesn't mean it works for everyone. For most people it doesn't!!! His girlfriend is in the minority.... This seems like it is his problem, and his problem alone, don't let him tell you what the nature of your relationship ';should'; be... it is what it is. He's obviously trying to make it into something that it's not, and in doing so will only make it more stressful for everyone involved, including your son. I think you need to sit down (one on one) and have a chat with him, and he needs a reality check! Pretty much no one is friends with their ex's!!! His girlfriend is the exception and needs to realise that. Good luck!
I am only friends with one of my ex boyfriends and it is because we have a six year old together. Now I am married and he is engaged and we all get along. We don't hang out on a regular basis but we are always friendly and do get together every once in a while even when my son is not around. With that being said this is probably not the norm. But we were friendly and got along for our son and over time that changed into a real friendship...... I got lucky because things are so much easier if you can get along and agree when you have kids.
I tried to be friends with my ex and all it did was cause me more heart ache so I don't reccommend it. I understand that you have to be friendly because of your child but the less you have to deal with your ex, I think the better off you will be. But best of luck to you and I hope everything works out for you !!! :)
You can be civil for your kid's sake, but you don't have to be friends. The way I see it is, AN EX IS AN EX FOR A REASON, WHY KEEP THEM AROUND?
EDIT: As far as him forcing you to talk to him, I say tell his girlfriend. I'm sure she doesn't know about this and wouldn't like it. If she does know and is not bothered by it, she must be nuts to. As far as who he and his girlfriend are hanging with, yea it's weird but really isn't any of your business. Who cares?
My husband, my ex husband and I were all civil to one another until he started dating a girl(whom he eventually married)that decided she hated my guts. My ex still tried to remain nice but every time he did he caught h*ll when he got home. Now his wife has created so much drama and chaos that we do not talk at all and he hasn't visited with our daughter in 5 years. So, from personal experience I would have to say that it's okay to be amicable, but as far as hanging out and being buddies..........NO WAY!
with my ex's i am friends with my latest ex we split last jan over some serious stuff, but we are still friends, we were together for over 3 years. but my ex before that who was violent with me and we split up years ago but have a child together we hate each other with a passion and denies my son as his which suits me... each person is different but i am friends with most my ex's bar the one that was just plain nasty.
i am sorry he is acting this way but it is nice to be civil for your child's sake. i really hope you get all sorted out but everyone is different like i said before
good luck
Some relationships end on bad terms and when they do it is harder for them to forgive and move on. But others, after awhile of being apart, can just move on with no problem and knowing that the relationship did not work out they can still talk and hang out or whatever and just be friends. Some can do it and some can't.
It makes perfect sense.Just because he was your ex and you have a kid together doesn't mean you should be the best of friends.It might look all rosy right now cause their all friends but trust me it will only be a matter of time before something ends the lilttle circle they have going on.
honestly know i am not friends with my ex because it only seems to get you in trouble... if you had the relationship and it didn';t work then why continue to be friends i think it is only going to make you both hurt in the long run...but i understand about the ex husband and you having a 10 yr old.. there is ways to be friendly and not be friends that';s when they are called acquaintance's
sometimes its just better to cut ties, i guess it depends on the relationship, sometimes you just can't be friends, personally i don't like when i date someone and they are friends with all their ex's, that seems very high school. Since you have a child together you will always be in each other's life so i guess being friends is the right thing 2 do.
No, not with my last ex anyway. We did get along for the sake of the kids but he remarried and his new wife is a very jealous and insecure woman and won't allow a friendship between us. My ex is one of those types of men I can't respect. He lets women run his life and tends to do as he is told by women. His new wife is doing this very thing to him and he allows it.
Heck no I was friends with that man once and he used my inner secrets against me in our divorce to make me look like a bad person. I am polite to him, and was polite when i told him he didnt need to drop our 10 year old off at the door the driveway and watching to make sure she gets in is just fine.
I am .. but not by choice. I too have children with my ex-husband and that is the only reason we communicate.
He understands that we communicate only on behalf of our children, he doesn't call to say hi or see how my weekend was.
You should try to play nice though , at least until your child is old enough to handle go back and forth without you there.
My ex wife is crazy. She says to me on day, after I said ';NO'; to something, ';I thought we were friends.'; I said ';no, we're ex spouses.'; She flipped out on me. And you wonder why I always say ';Over is over!'; If i wanted to be friends, we wouldn't be exes.
Its hard to not want to be friends with your ex, especially if you still want to be with them. For sake of the child, you have to be civil towards each other, but nothing more, if you don't want.
You don't have to be friends. Just do your best to get along with him around your kid until the the child is old enough to understand the situation.
Sounds tough.My ex and I were great friends, and we made a big promise to not lets this ruin our friendship.we broke up and went out 3 times.Him and I still like eachother and we are constantly chalenging eachother mentally.Currently hes winning:P
if i was having dinner with my ex, and she was choking on food, i'd watch her die with a big smile on my face.
friends?
no.
i turned my first giirl friend lesbian and then she went crazy so no (im 14 how great is that)
no, but mainly because her new BF is a ***hole.
Nah ditched her for acting.
Yes we were best friends before marriage and are still after divorced. We will be close forever.
I tried but it doesn't work.
be civil to 1 another for the kid sack
no im not. i dont see how some people can do that...especially the men.seems fishy to me
I was friends with my ex for years after we divorced. I had a few other friends as well. After I met my husband, I started spending less and less time with friends; my social life is different now - I don't see or talk to my friends (incl. my ex) very often, I'm quite happy with the company of my husband.
I don't think you are ';supposed'; to be friends with your ex - or anyone else, for that matter. If the relationship works out in a way that leads to friendship, then it just does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Your ex sounds desperate and controlling; you're right, you should be on good terms for the sake of the kid - but it doesn't mean being buddies. You can be on good terms with someone without ';being friends'; (think about your next-door neighbors or your co-workers, for example - you may interact with them in some way, but they're not necessarily your ';friends';). Your ex needs to grow up.
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