Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?

How would you feel if your ex (that you were with for over 4 years and have a child with) and your best friend (whom you are the godmother to her child, and have done so much for and always been there for her and helped her) had sex? Would you feel awkward or weird about it? Would you be pissed? Would you still want to be friends with your best friend? Do you think that's a boundary that shouldn't be crossed?





I'm in a new relationship of almost 9 months with an amazing man that I love very much, and no longer have feelings for my ex, but we remain close since we have a 1 year old daughter. My best friend and I have known each other for over 6 years and been through a lot together. Yet she takes more than she gives in our friendship. I found out from my ex that they went on a date a few weeks ago and when I asked her about it (I was being friendly and even joking a bit when I asked so she wouldn't be uncomfortable) she denied it was a date and said she'd made it clear to him that they were just friends. She then told me over the next week about two men she slept with in that week alone. Two nights ago, my ex told me they had sex after going on a third date. I have not spoken to her about this. I feel very awkward and weird about it and part of me doesn't like it. If she had come to me and talked to me about it, I would have told her it was okay even though it bothered me somewhat but I feel that she should have at least had the respect to talk to me about it first. Plus she's lied to me about it, and is hiding this from me.





Please note that I do not have feelings for my ex anymore, and I understand that he is free game, I just feel that my best friend shouldn't be messing with my ex, especially since we still have to be such big parts of each others lives because of our baby. And I don't think best friends should do that to each other. I would never sleep with any of my friends ex's out of love and respect. Plus, she tells me all the time she wants another baby since her only child is now 3 and a half, and she misses her being so little, and that if she gets pregnant, she will keep it no matter what and she doesn't care who she has one with, so that has me worried that she's using my ex to get pregnant. She also has a horrible track record and constantly tells me she's worried she has an STD I think they both should have considered my feeling on this. If it was my friend and any other man, or my ex and any other girl I wouldn't give two shits, but it's my ex and supposed best friend. I just feel bothered. Any advice?Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
i would bother most people


it like for girls i guess it a rule you cant date your friends ex's


even if you dont have any feelings for himm anymore


it natural to be bother.you still dated him and did have a child together


your friend should know better.


i think she would be bother if it was the other way aroundWould it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
Do you have ownership over him or her? No.


Sounds like your friend is a whore anyway, so her sleeping with your ex shouldn't surprise you. Get over it. You've obviously an adult... act like it.
to be honest, I had this ex I was with for 3 years, no kids. this best friend I knew for 6 years. even though I was broken up with my ex she slept with him.


I think it is wrong and I dont think youe best friend reconsiders your feelings. they arent a good friend.


because of this situation I stopped talking to her, she couldnt be trusted.
I am sure she feels more awkward about the situation than you do, which is the probable reason that she lied. Would you not hide embarassing secrets? I would and do.





If she has such a horrible track records with men, then that is her business and not your. Let that go too.





If you ex knows how she acts but slept with her anyway, you can't change his mind anymore than you can change his passions.





The only issue here that is important to you is:


Can you cope with your ex and your friend being together and not respecting boundaries of friendship in this crazy triangle?





P.S. You can cope with it, but you will need to work on it because it will be hard sometimes.
No , she cannot be your true friend. If she has slept with your ex, possibility is that they must be talking or meeting each other from a longer time than you think. They must be discussing things about you. Had it been that she would have been your friend things would have been different, she would have shared this with you before even going on date.





Just stop all relationship with her. before that verify this with her once, because you never know who is playing what game with you.