How do you become friends with your ex when he doesnt love you, but you still love him?

My ex of 1 day wants me to be friends with him, but I'm scared.


He broke up with me because he doesn't love me, so he's basically over the breakup. I, on the other hand, love him, and have been crying non-stop.


He wants to be friends, but I don't see how thats possible. Let's just say we did a lot of..sexual...things, which makes unable to see how we can have a normal friendship. I still want to kiss him when I see him, because I love him. When we are 'friends', isn't he going to remember when we kissed and were intimate?


I know all I am going to think of is how sad I am that the relationship is over. And what happens when he gets a new girlfriend, and I am the jealous friend he doesn't wanna deal with.How do you become friends with your ex when he doesnt love you, but you still love him?
i could say that there r plenty of more fish in the sea, that every end has a beginning and on and on but im not. u obviously care about this guy alot but unfortunatley u cant make up his mind for him. him saying he still wants 2 be friends is more like ya whatever we're done. try not 2 think about him and hang out with other friends, not him. if u stilll cant move on the al i can say is time heals all woundsHow do you become friends with your ex when he doesnt love you, but you still love him?
You need to tell him that you can't be friends with him right now and to give you a little time and space. Make him keep his distance and be strong when he realizes that he wants you back because you are unobtainable now, because he will. Don't answer the phone or the door for him. Bite the bullet and be strong. Otherwise he will string you along forever, one minute, he wants you the next just friends and so on.
Don't become the victim, I feel staying friends and seeing him with a new girl will cause you further heart ache, you should keep your distance obviously be polite if you do see him out and about, but take it as a lesson learned and enjoy life until you find someone who appreciates you and love you for you.





You will get over him, he obviously doesn't know a good thing when hes got it.!
I am so in the same boat as you!!! I had to totally cut off communication with him b/c it was too hard to see or talk to him. We started hanging out a year after and I still have feelings for him but he just wants to be friends. I really don't think you can be just friends with someone that you have been intimate with and still like/love.


Good luck to you...and it does get easier with time.
The same thing happened to me a year ago. We finally started talking the other day because I wanted to take some time to get over him. I admit that I am still not completly over him, but things are a lot better and we are starting to become best friends again. Just take some time away from him and then you will know that the time is right to start talking to him again. Good Luck.
yeah, seriously, tell him you'll surely be friends sometime but that time isn't now. not a day after a breakup. it's not logical, rational or comfortable. your feelings will eventually change, fade, etc., and a friendship will be a breeze. but you can't just shift gears like that. you'll have trapped feelings that will just tie you in knots.
I think you need to give it time. Put your needs first. Cry all you need, hang out with your friends then when you feel you have a clearer head decide if you want to be friends with him.


Some guys are able to do that. I have a friend who is a serial dater and 99% of the time he remains friends with his exes.
its possible that he still likes you because .. that's what my ex is doing to me now ..


we broke up like 2 years ago and we have bee en friends ever since we broke up


all guys out there now need to get there mind straight but thats what i think


just be friends with him
If you are still in love with him, i think it's best to give yourself some time and space before you are in contact as friends. That time and space will allow you to get past the love and actually allow you to see him as a friend.


Good luck
me and my boyfriend just broke up too. i still have feelings for him too. the best thing to do though is just try to get over him. you can do better. ';you can't find the right person if your stuck on the wrong one.';
Friends when you love him??? That's hard!! It's possible, you can do it, but you'll have to be very good at faking you're happy when you see him with someone else.
you never do


you try to stay as far as you can so you can get over him
hey lisa its mayasim wat u and ur boyfriend did some sexual things. okay i am confused if he said lets be friends dont be y cauze sexual things means boyfriend and girlfriend.
just stick with trying to be friends, then if everything works out , then you guys can date. But my advice is dont push it.
He might miss it..but you should just get over it.


just try to act normal with him..im sure he remember all those intimate times though...


just try to start over.
Just tell him you wouldn't feel comfortable.
He's just being nice.....he doesn't litterally mean it..at this point its up to you on how you want to proceed
well i would ask ';what the **** are you up to?!';





but i have bin threw that about three times
i dont know. its hard to be just friends after. at least for me.
Don't try to be friends right now. Just move on and focus on other areas of your life. In my experience, it usually only works to be friends with an ex if neither of you liked each other that much to start with or if a lot of time has passed. I'm not saying you should ignore him if he says hi to you or if you run into him, but don't make a point of hanging out with him. Just give yourself some time to get over the relationship without having to see him very much. Eventually, you may find that you are able to be friends again or you will just lose touch which may be for the best anyway.
He wants to be friends because he does not want to feel bad. If you are still hurt by him. To hell with what he wants. It is all about you. You cannot be friends with someone that you are still in love with. It is hurtful and unfair to you. You need to take the time to get over him. If he did not want the relationship, then he does not get the friendship immediately. He seems to be treating the breakup as business as usual. Take the time you need to get over him. Being his friend now will be a constant painful reminder of how hurt your are. It will never allow you to move on. Good luck.
Lisa, you are hurting. I'm sorry about that.





I hope he still remembers your relationship...


but if he doesn't, that doesn't matter.





It's not about him...it's about you. He's


thinking about himself, not about you.





Take care of yourself. Surround yourself


with family and friends who love you.


Don't have sex with hm anymore. If you


are not good enough to be in a relationship,


why should you reward him with sex?





He doesn't want just to be friends with you,


he wants to continue to have sex with you,


probably while being with someone else.


Don't fall for the trap.





I know you still want to kiss him, but you


musn't. Leave him alone and move on.


If he doesn't want to be with you, then IT'S


HIS LOSS.


You'll be fine.





Email me if you want to chat.
honestly it may take time before you can be his friend. if he is really worried about being friends with you and cares about you at all as a friend/person he will give you your space and time for you to be stronger and ready to be friends with him. i am now friends with most of my ex's and i dont think about kissing him or anything anymore. and you cant force someone to love you if it wasnt there it wasnt there and at least he was honest with you. be honest with him about how hurt you are and give it time before you jump in a frienship because if its too soon it will be a million times harder to get over him if you are still talking and hanging out with him


good luck and im sorry