HELP! Can you ever truly be friends with your Ex! 10 POINTS?

Help! Me and my ex split up 9 months ago now, yet all i can do is think about her, she treated me so incredibly badly, cheated, lied, yet I cant stop thinking about her i've no idea what to do... We were really good friends before all this, its just who she is, she just cant stay faithful... The question is can you ever be friends, ever get back to what it was, should i stay friends with her... I still harbour alot of feelings for her, Love, resent and anger at what she did to me, yet still wanna be her friend, yet part of me thinks if we were so close how could she do tat me? my feeling for her havnt changed in 9 months, and i dont think they ever will, its the final year of college, and after this i wont see her again that often, once or twice a year maybe... I really could do with the help... Thank you!HELP! Can you ever truly be friends with your Ex! 10 POINTS?
Personally, I don't think so. No matter how serious or not the relationship was, if ever you try to be friends, there will always be a big pink Elephant in the room with you both. They'll be things that you'll think of but can not say to one another and ththey'lleally eat your insides. Once yo end a relationship, It's an agreement to go your separate ways. The spark has gone, and its best for you both to leave it there. Especially if one still has loving feelings for the other and the other doesn't.


Hope this vaguely helps


xxHELP! Can you ever truly be friends with your Ex! 10 POINTS?
Trust me, been there, done that, cried on the t-shirts! Of course you can be friends, but you both have to be willing to do so *emphasis on the BOTH*. I understand that although she may have treated you badly, you really cannot help who you love. Give it a go, and if she feels she isn't ready/nor willing to be friends with you, then her loss cos you seem like a pretty decent person.





Good luck anyway :)
You need closure before you can ever be friends with her properly again. You still feel all these things %26amp; to resolve it you need to tell her all your feelings, about what shes done to you, how shes hurt you, %26amp; how your going to move on





Amberness/.xx
yes you can be freinds but first you have to look at what part do you play in all the termoil
yess yuh still can ((:
i know how you feel i my ec broke up with me but he treated me so badly he cheated on me and he lied to me but yet i still love him your not alone. You can still remain friends but its hard i tried it :( when you see her does it feel like you love her it does with me and my ex. The best thing to do as you wont see her much is to try and keep it that way just try and stay true to yourself and think how your life would be if you try and move on you got to think of it in a possible way if she treated you like that just talk every now and again it will be hard to start off with but im sure you will be fine :)





Good Luck


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It's very obvious that you are very much involved emotionally for this reason you can't be just friends. It will be harmful to you mentally, emotionally and your friendship will be harmed for good.





If you were over each other than being friends would work out. Who better to share/compare stories about your new beau/sweetheart with than each other. Right now the hurt is yet to near and until you can get over it you can never really truly be friends.





PS: Observation, It also seems you need to be with someone who has no respect for you and treats you like dirt. You should work on that or all of your relationships will reflect the same scenario.
You are despirately pathetic. (Just telling you outta love- since you like to be treated badly.) Don't you see what you're doing here????


Why would you want to be friends with a liar and a cheater? What happened to your self esteem that you would settle for such crap? Are you a glutten for punishment... .and can you spell ';DYSFUNCTIONAL?';


I'd tell you to forget about her and go find a REAL WOMAN, but right now the best advice is for you to forget about her and go find yourself!!!


Take a break from the sickening love boat ride and do some inventory about yourself to find out why you're attracted to mean chicks. Go online and type in key phrases like ';emotionally unavailable women'; and ';relationship red flags'; and ';relationship deal breakers'; and ';why am I attracted to the wrong women?'; and ';healthy relationships'; etc.... give yourself about 3-6 months of boot camp relationship training before you get all mixed up with a chick.


If you give yourself this self-help gift, two things will happen to you (I promise!) You will be able to spot REAL WOMEN and... keep them!


Good luck, Cutie!
Personally,I truly don't think that you can be friends with your ex.I'm talking from experience.I think that the best thing that you can do for yourself is to move on.People get comfortable in a relationship and when it's not there,that's when they start to feel as you do. It's all normal,it's just a process of healing. We all feel the same way when we've lost the person.You have to stay positive and remember this,if it's meant to be it will happen.It brings to mind a couple of sayings,';if you love some one,then let them go'; and ';you don't know what you've got till it's gone';. Theres a lot of truth in them.People move on and they also go through relationships like kleenex.They say that when your not looking for a relationship that,that's when you usually find one. You don't deserve to be with someone that can't commit and be faithful.If you had stayed with her,it sounds like you would of got hurt again and again.Your still young and have your whole life time to find that special someone.There's no time limit.Concentrate on your last year of school and do things for you.So you won't see her but once or twice a year,no big deal,it's her loss.Stay positive and focus on yourself.A lot can happen in a year's time.Anyone she winds up with is going to receive the same treatment.You don't define your self as a person by a relationship.You sound like an intelligent very caring guy and I don't think you'll have any trouble in the future as far as finding anyone.You deserve better,don't be so hard on yourself and for God's sake quit agonizing and torturing yourself over someone that hurt you so much.Hope this brings some insight into your life.