How to make your old friends wish they were your friend again?

I mean in a good way. Not like hanging out with the ';in'; group or dating hot guys.


I mean showing your ex-friends that your not so annoying, and that to see the good side of you, and that there's more to you than being wild. Like being loyal, and helping people. Giving good advice, and being there for someone.


Cause I am a really good friend like that, but last year I had a hard year and I just acted so weird and pathetic. But I still was always there for everyone, but they weren't there for me. I never changed in that way. Well it's a new year and time for new friends.


What's a good way to get my old friends to want to be back with me agian?


Thanks!How to make your old friends wish they were your friend again?
My old best friend from 4th grade is now the most popular girl in school.


I would join the school play and make sure they see it.


That's what I'm doing. And I love acting...

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Wait, why do some people tend to date an ex boyfriend's or girlfriend's friends or even best friends.?

i have seen some of my friends boyfriends or girlfriends date their ex friends. i mean it doesn't make any sense, just think about it how would you feel if your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is going out with your best friend or one of your friends.


i don't wanna stereotyping or anything it seems to happend mostly with caucasians. i don't really see that in african americans.





i believe an ex should be off limit to a friend. i could never be friend with someone who would go out with my ex.Wait, why do some people tend to date an ex boyfriend's or girlfriend's friends or even best friends.?
You're absolutely right. A friend of your ex should be off limits. Some people just don't have any boundaries, or they do it to get back at their ex, to show them that they have no respect for them. That's the only reason I can think of. There are too many other people in the world to have to date someone associated with your ex. Trust. ';-()

PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?

Let me start of by warning you that this is a little complicated, but I'm going to make it as simple as possible and try not to use too many useless details. Okay so my bestest frined invited me to her house for the first time a couple years ago and I met her brother for the first time. i already knew her parents. i was spending i few weeks with her family, just for the heck of it. And me and her brother Kasey hated each other on sight. I don't really know why, probably cause he was so arrogant and I was sassy in reply to his arrogance, but yeah we didn't hit it off. While over Teresa/Tess's (my best friend) house my other friend called and we got into a stupid fight. I was in the family room just flipping through the channel but not really watching the tv and I guess I looked upset cause Kasey actually sat down and asked me what was wrong. Up until then the only civilconversation we'd had was to ask the other to pass something at the dinner table, and that rarely happened. I reluctantly told him what had happened, and he pretty much tried to comfort me (he wasn't very good at it though) after that i think he just softened up towards me and we kind of became friends. About a week and a half later or so we went to the amusement park and went on the ferris wheel. Tess decided to sit that ride out and even to this day I could swear she planned it all out, but cliche as it was he made his move at the top of the wheel. he handed me a locket and told me it was tess's but she'd given it to him and told him to give it to someone special. I was still puzzled and he never did answer my question, he just leaned over and kissed me on the cheek and we pretty much spent the rest of the day holding hands and looking at Tess's smug smile. A few months later we broke up because he didn't think he could hand the distance, even though it wasn't all that far. We saw each other a few times after that and he finally broke down and told me that he made a really big mistake breaking up and that he was wrong and that if I could handle the distance then so could he so we tried again and we were pretty happy except for a few flaws. He had a bit of trouble controlling his emotions, It wasn't like he'd hit me or anything he just got really jealous or really mad or really depressed and there didn't seem to be a natural balance between them. The cause i soon found out by asking around was drugs. It really sucked to know that and I had to tell Tess but she couldn't bear to tell her parents so we tried to deal with it. It became a routine he would say he's clean and then I'd find out he wasn't. Back and forth. Tug O' War and eventually the rope snapped or more specifically i did I told them I couldn't take it anymore and that I wish i could help but obviously i couldn't and I left for good. Me and tess stayed bestest friend but I'd cut HIM out of my life completely. he called I blocked, he text I ignored, he pleaded I didn't hear it, but I wasn't heartless and I was worried tess gave me play by plays on how he was doing and it help a little. Eventually he got better and was able to quit and actually stay clean this time and he finally got in touch with me through his sister pleading his case to me. I finally talked to him. He begged me to come back. I told him I couldn't. Back and forth it went. We finally compromised on being just friend which was the best thing ever and made me so happy to know I could have him in my life and not be dating him. But if this is what's best for the both of us why does it feel so weird? so hollow like I'm faking it? I don't want to be with him but I don't want him to be with anyone else. I hope its just me being protective cause I've seen him sooo vulnerable at times, but how do I know if it's something more than that? I'm just so confused right now. Maybe it was better when we weren't talking at all? A little help from anyone...please.





Sorry this was so long I feel bad about adding in the useless details I said I wouldn't add in so sorry everyone %26lt;3PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?
Aww girl, I'm going to start by saying I'm very sorry about all of that. Drugs are a very hard thing to deal with in friends and boyfriends especially when you really care about them and you want them to get help. It's really good that he accepted help and is now clean for sure this time. I know it takes a few times before you can stay clean for a while and even then it's rocky. But he's trying so you have to see that and be thankful for it. I can tell you really care about him, I think that was the cutest thing the way y'all got together! You don't want to see him with anyone else because you do love him and that's also protectiveness but it might also be jealousy. Just think about everything with him, do you want to be with him again?


I can tell he cares for you just by the way you typed about everything that happened. I think he would be happier being with you, but is that what you want? It's your decision, do what's right for you. I hope everything works out and this helped somewhat!





Good Luck!PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?
yes so dont be and can u please post his and urs age because that will help me re anwser this question
yes srry i didnt read it all i got bored at okay so my best friend....
yes
omg i stopped reading this at ';urgent';
it seems like you care for him, so why not be friends? you may not be over him yet, which is why you're acting jealous. give it time. however, if he relapses, i would cut off all ties with him for good, no question. let him know this too. good luck
ok, true enough the story was long but at least you wrote it correctly and properly. I enjoyed the reading though I did not enjoy th situation. I will honestly say, because my mind is a bit boggled at the moment, I hope all things work out in your favor. Live your life and go for what you want at any age or any time and place. Obstacles and tribulations come and go. No matter what the situation may be, you'll be fine. But that doesn't go for any old person. there are just some people in the world who don't deserve good things to come their way, but you seem like a decent person, so I wish the best for you. *By the way, the story you wrote has some beautiful parts in it, almost seemed like a fantasy, but It was a interesting reading and I enjoyed the sweet parts.*
That's a tough situation, its hard because whenever you are close to someone, its alwaysstarts with friendship, often that is the hardest thing to let go of .. but if you are finding it difficult to be friends because he wants to get back together and you dont, perhaps for your own sake as well as his its better not to have any contact, that might sound harsh but in the long run you and he will be happier because you both will be able to properly move on. that being said i really do wish you the best of luck
i think yu shuld give it another try.


lyk u said..yur 13 ryte? yu got tyme %26lt;3
wow. i cant believe i actually read all that lol.


to be honest i think your best without him. it just hurts now because your not fully over him. i think as soon as you find another guy you will stop feeling so protective over him and will be able to move on. i dont think you two can just 'be friends' however, there's to much between you. and you said yourself it feels weird.


my advice is to try and stop seeing him even as friends, date some more guys and move on.

How do you become friends with your ex boyfriend?

me %26amp; him went out for like six or seven months %26amp; i really loved %26amp; liked him but he liked %26amp; loved me way more than i did... %26amp; i was really scared to get close to someone %26amp; losing them again %26amp; i broke his heart by saying if he doesnt get me pregant than were braking up but i didnt really mean it i just said it cause i tried every other excuse to brake up with him %26amp; it didnt work.... so now he wont even talk to me.... how do i get him to talk to me again %26amp; what would i say?! =/How do you become friends with your ex boyfriend?
he really liked u. stop ******* with his heart. he deserves a better friend than u.








no advice for u. u suck

Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?

How would you feel if your ex (that you were with for over 4 years and have a child with) and your best friend (whom you are the godmother to her child, and have done so much for and always been there for her and helped her) had sex? Would you feel awkward or weird about it? Would you be pissed? Would you still want to be friends with your best friend? Do you think that's a boundary that shouldn't be crossed?





I'm in a new relationship of almost 9 months with an amazing man that I love very much, and no longer have feelings for my ex, but we remain close since we have a 1 year old daughter. My best friend and I have known each other for over 6 years and been through a lot together. Yet she takes more than she gives in our friendship. I found out from my ex that they went on a date a few weeks ago and when I asked her about it (I was being friendly and even joking a bit when I asked so she wouldn't be uncomfortable) she denied it was a date and said she'd made it clear to him that they were just friends. She then told me over the next week about two men she slept with in that week alone. Two nights ago, my ex told me they had sex after going on a third date. I have not spoken to her about this. I feel very awkward and weird about it and part of me doesn't like it. If she had come to me and talked to me about it, I would have told her it was okay even though it bothered me somewhat but I feel that she should have at least had the respect to talk to me about it first. Plus she's lied to me about it, and is hiding this from me.





Please note that I do not have feelings for my ex anymore, and I understand that he is free game, I just feel that my best friend shouldn't be messing with my ex, especially since we still have to be such big parts of each others lives because of our baby. And I don't think best friends should do that to each other. I would never sleep with any of my friends ex's out of love and respect. Plus, she tells me all the time she wants another baby since her only child is now 3 and a half, and she misses her being so little, and that if she gets pregnant, she will keep it no matter what and she doesn't care who she has one with, so that has me worried that she's using my ex to get pregnant. She also has a horrible track record and constantly tells me she's worried she has an STD I think they both should have considered my feeling on this. If it was my friend and any other man, or my ex and any other girl I wouldn't give two shits, but it's my ex and supposed best friend. I just feel bothered. Any advice?Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
i would bother most people


it like for girls i guess it a rule you cant date your friends ex's


even if you dont have any feelings for himm anymore


it natural to be bother.you still dated him and did have a child together


your friend should know better.


i think she would be bother if it was the other way aroundWould it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
Do you have ownership over him or her? No.


Sounds like your friend is a whore anyway, so her sleeping with your ex shouldn't surprise you. Get over it. You've obviously an adult... act like it.
to be honest, I had this ex I was with for 3 years, no kids. this best friend I knew for 6 years. even though I was broken up with my ex she slept with him.


I think it is wrong and I dont think youe best friend reconsiders your feelings. they arent a good friend.


because of this situation I stopped talking to her, she couldnt be trusted.
I am sure she feels more awkward about the situation than you do, which is the probable reason that she lied. Would you not hide embarassing secrets? I would and do.





If she has such a horrible track records with men, then that is her business and not your. Let that go too.





If you ex knows how she acts but slept with her anyway, you can't change his mind anymore than you can change his passions.





The only issue here that is important to you is:


Can you cope with your ex and your friend being together and not respecting boundaries of friendship in this crazy triangle?





P.S. You can cope with it, but you will need to work on it because it will be hard sometimes.
No , she cannot be your true friend. If she has slept with your ex, possibility is that they must be talking or meeting each other from a longer time than you think. They must be discussing things about you. Had it been that she would have been your friend things would have been different, she would have shared this with you before even going on date.





Just stop all relationship with her. before that verify this with her once, because you never know who is playing what game with you.

What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?

my friend is currently ';with'; this guy i used to be in love with and was very angry when i said i would date him if we fell in love again after time went by and she found someone else. she said, 'you dont date your friend's ex!' and unlike her i didnt ever date him. but we were in love with eachother before things fell apart and for a while that meant something to us. how would you interpret 'no dating your friends' ex'? for what reasons? and if she wasnt friends with me until after she dated him does that count against the rule? doesnt it count that i still love him and she's ';with'; him?? it hurts!!What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?
wait so you're friends with the guy you used to be in love with's girlfriend now, but you two weren't friends when you were in love with the guy? so like unless you and that guy are soul mates or something don't say you'd be with him if they broke up and he was okay with it. you two are friends and obviously it didn't work out for you and the guy. so if you feel like he's more important than your friendship go on and pursue him. but when he leaves you, or if he doesn't wanna be with you, you're just gonna end up alone wishing you had that friend.What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?
It's not really a rule, it depends on the situation. If you value her friendship more than this guy, then don't date him. You will upset her and possibly lose a friend.





If you want to be with this guy, and you don't care if she gets angry then go for it. You can really do whatever you want as long as you are able to deal with the consequences.
that whole phrase means that you should not date someone you friend has been out with. personally, i think the ';rule'; is stupid. i have a friend who went out with a guy her friend had just broken up with. they turned out to be a great couple.basically what i'm saying is, date who you want.
An ex of any kind means like an ex girlfriend or boyfriend and when your friends with someone they should know or if you still have them in your heart even tho its all over for the relationship part and no dating friends ex's means no dating your friends ex
you don't date your friend's ex, that hurts your friend's feeling. and on top of that, if the guy dates you, it looks like you break them up.





whenever you want to date your friend's ex, you ask if she is ok with that before going out with him.
If you didn't date him, he isn't an ex. That rule doesn't apply to ex crushes. Your friend is doing nothing wrong.
You don't date your friend's ex's out of respect to your friend.





Bro's before Hoe's


Chick's before Dick's
you didnt date him but you guys had a thing so tell her to shove it up her a**. you had a thing with him first
well if your friend is cool with it, it's fine, but if not...you dont date your friend's ex

Is it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?

He actually isn't my ex. We dated until I learned he was still with his exgirlfriend. I broke it off, even though I was crazy about him.





But now my friends give me updates on him...what he did for Christmas, how he looks, etc. I seriously don't want to know because than we end up talking about him and why it didn't work out with us, etc.





Is it rude for me to ask them not to mention him to me?





I just don't want to talk or think about him. I have moved on and really don't care what he is doing 99% of the time. So it just makes it harder because I start thinking about him and suddenly start missing him.





What do you think????Is it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?
I would just tell them how u feel ...... i mean , i wouldnt want to hear about my ex either , really. if they are your friends , they will understand. best of luckIs it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?
I suggest letting them know how it makes you feel when they talk about him to you. Be sure to tell them that you've moved on, and that he's no longer a part of your life, so you'd prefer to not hear about him.





If you tell your friends upfront (politely), they will respect your request and back off.





Hope things work out for you!

Can you tell me your trick to be friend with your ex?

My bf just broke up with me. He said we are too different. I wanted to disagree but it's useless now. He still want me to be his friend. I want to but how can I be if I still love him and hope to get back to him. Should I ask him to say something that could kill my hope?Can you tell me your trick to be friend with your ex?
im working on the trick now. but you just need some time to be completly away for him for a few months until your love goes away. atleast the in love part.. and your feelings go awya.. then you might be able to be friends.. if it hurts you too much why put yourself through that so he can be friends.. do what makes you happy cause in the end... you come first

How do u stay friends w/ your ex-first true love?

It hurts really bad to stay his friend %26amp; he is kinda mean sometimes....He acts like he never cared about me but he is to important to me just to never talk to him again. We were together almost a year and he just fell out of love for me. The sad part is though he said he knew our relationship was over like two months before he ended it with me....so he used me for like 2 months then broke up with me! What should i do???? Its been about four months since he broke my heart and we are friends now kinda.How do u stay friends w/ your ex-first true love?
holy crap i went through the same thing, i mean everything you said i went through. sorry, kind of freaky. any ways i know how you feel, how it hurts. i tried with my ex but it just didn't work out. you can keep trying but me and my ex aren't friends at all, it was too hard for me and if it's too hard for you to then just move on from it, i had to and i have a new boyfriend but it still doesn't mean i don't care about it, cause you know first love, it's hard to forget about him. you can keep trying and hurt or just move on and forget, if it's meant to be, even being friends, then it will work out. sorry. :\How do u stay friends w/ your ex-first true love?
You don't. You move on.
Damn I'm sorry.


I've been trying to figure that out for 6 years.!


I still can't be ';just friends'; with him.neither can he.


The sparks are always there between us and whenever we talk its either an argument or flashback.


I'm sorry but I'm not sure that can ever happen and if you figure it out.please let me know.


You'll find someone who appreciates you and loves you endlessly.I have.6 years later but it was worth the wait (:

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Can you still stay friends with your ex?

The last guy I was with and I ended it about a month ago, before he went to college. He came home the other weekend and some of the feelings I had for him came back and now hes back away and I still think about him a lot. Then he started calling, texting, and iming me constantly. We talk every single day and I love how comfortable I am with him. Is it possible to just stay friends with him or will I always feel more? I obviously want to get back together but I think its a bad idea because of the distance and everything. So do you think its fine to stay friends?Can you still stay friends with your ex?
i think its okay to stay friends

Are you friends with your ex?

I cheated on my girlfriend that i was dating for over a year, first time and only time, she broke up with me and wouldn't talk to me, it killed me so much, it was the biggest mistake i have ever made and i know that doesnt make it okay, its been over 5 months and i am still compeltely and totally in love with her, i need her in my life and i would never hurt again EVER. But we just started talking again and we are semi friends i guess? She doesnt hate me like she did, but i know she will never trust me..someone especially girls, help me..what do i say to her, how do i get her back? I need herAre you friends with your ex?
Too bad about you and your needs and wants! She deserves better. I have two exs and I do not speak to either of them, nor will I ever.Are you friends with your ex?
tell her whats on your mind i don't know if she likes you the way you like her. but i couldn't stay away from my bf when he cheated on my i didn't talk to him for a whole two days and he called me and told me what was on his mind and he knew that saying sorry didn't make it okay but that he Truly was and that i didn't have to forgive him if i wasn't ready to but he needed me and he loved me still . explain it to her and tell her whats on your mind . hope i helped
You shouldn't need anyone. And if you really did care about her you wouldn't have done that in the first place.





I think you are just obsessed with something you can't have.





But if you really do care that much, in a sincere way, then all you can do is give it some time.





Let me spend the rest of my life making it up to you - is a good phrase but you better count on if you put one toe out of place, you will blow it again.
hmmm thats a tough one....i am not sure if i could forgive a man who cheated on me....fool me once shame on me kinda thing...but everyones different and maybe she is willing to take you back....IDK you should just explain your feelings to her and tell her what you are going to do in the future to make sure you never cheat on her again. TALK to her....if she gives you a big fat NO WAY we are never getting abck together...than leave it to that. Listen to Taylor Swifts song ';Shouldve said no';. good luck man
lay your feelings raw. Tell her you made the biggest mistake of your life by hurting her, your miserable without her, and you need her in your life because she makes your life complete. And if she could just forgive you and get back together you and her can work on the trusting issues together and build a life together. You need her. You need to treat her like the princess she is and stop being a cheating dog!





I wish you the best and good luck.
You need to tell her how you feel so find a special way to make her listen. Prove to her that you won't hurt her again, prove to her that you need her, prove to her just how much she means to you. Just how much things suck without her. Make it clear that you know that you messed up, that you are truly and sincerely sorry. Be creative and yourself and what is meant to be will find a way. Good luck!
cheating is a pretty horrible thing to do to someone you love and what you are feeling right now is what most do afterward, regret. She may never come back or ever trust you again, but the fact that she is talking to you is a good sign in the right direction, it will take time for her to regain trust in you you are going to have to just be patient and do things on her schedule and not push.
yes,im still good friends with my ex and so is my new husband.When you have kids involved you got to show a good relationship with the other are the kids will suffer for it with all the arguing.That's just not the way it should be.In any relationship you are in you have to be friends first and then more than that.We all learn from what we see and do in life and your life is only what you make of it..
with some of us girls you can never win back. once that trust is broken we know within ourselves that we would spend the rest of our lives with a cloud of suspicion over us. you dont want that hanging over you either.. i suggest you learn the lesson and the next time you are in a great relationship - dont mess it up.
This is really a tough one. She may never be able to forget and get over what you did, even if she loves you and wants to. Your best behavior is required, for a long time. You may get tired of waiting to be forgiven; she may not be able to forgive. I hope you can work it out. A lesson, painfully learned. Good luck.
if you loved her so much, you shouldn't have cheated on her and it is possible that you may never get her back. If you want to be friends with her, then you need to be just friends withher and nothing more, if you can't do that,then you shouldn't be talking to her what so ever.
Listen George ..the reality is that you may never have her back and you have to know that in your heart! But there is an up side to this. You now know what you did and although you had fun for a night it cost you much bigger than that! I'd like to think that this is a mistake that you won't want to repeat again!
being friends with my ex never helped me, in the end i kept getting hurt but i made excuses because i loved him and i did that til he did something so awful i realized i couldn't to that. any way my point is i depends on how deep the relationship was if you could be friends with your ex.
I've had that happen to me. The guy I loved cheated on me with my best friend and wanted me back. I didnt wanna get hurt again so i wouldnt talk to him. Prove that your trustworthy. Be her best friend. Call her. Love her. Then tell her how you feel. She may still love you and is just afraid of getting hurt.
You're right she will never trust you. If you care about her you will leave her alone and move on with your life. If you loved her so much how in the world could you cheat on her and destroy both your lives?
Sounds like something I went through. Except I was the one cheated on. I still don't like or talk to my ex so youre gonna have to do a lot of work to get her back. I'm not sure what you should say.
Good for her. You cheated! You obviously dont love her all that much if you had to put your junk in some other hoe within a year of being with one person.
Tell her how you feel. And if she says she's moved on, ask if you can be friends anyway. Having her as a friend is better than not having her in your life at all.
sorry george ol boy, too little and too late! (what were you thinking cheating on someone you were ';totally'; in love with and ';need';?)
Well I'm definitely not a girl, but you need to get over it, suck it up and move on with your life! Besides, 8th graders shouldn't be dating in the first place!
get over it, she has probably been through half your mates by now, your pathetic.
No, I'm not friends with my ex. I tried to be but she just continued to hurt me more and more, so we decided to not even bother being friends. She was a whore.
Never had an ex.
you cant. ouch eh.. karma
as a girl i would never trust you again either, i know you say it was your only time but im sure she feels that she has been lied to plenty of times. my ex bf did the same thing and we are still friends (email or txt every once in a while) he has made it clear that he still wants to be with me and that he will change for me for about a year now, he still sends me love letters by email which i simply dont reply to , i dont feel that he did love me and i would never in a million years get back together with him. sorry you messed up in my opinion find another girl and make sure you dont do the same thing.
The problem is you never know what you have till it's gone!!





Yes you shouldn't have cheated, but no one can judge you as we all are guilty of making mistakes.





I know you miss your Girl, but this is one time your going to have to be patient. She has only just started to talk to you again so as much as you might want to be with her, you can't right now. The first thing you have to do is establish a friendship and use this to build up trust. This means a lot of talking, listening and getting to know one another again. This process takes time, and there is no guarantees!!





Be prepared she may test you by dating other people while your being her 'friend' remember patience is a virtue.





Good luck hope it works out for you, don't cheat no more
George, man to man. Dude, You Got To Let Her Go.





This may hurt. This may take a while, But seriously...


If she ever actually did go back out with you,


She will never fully trust you, and you will fight constantly,


Because she will subconsciously hold somethings against you.





What you're feeling isn't love or like, it's Guilt.


You want her back because you feel guilty for what you did.





Apologize To Her, Maybe If She Accepts Your Apologize,


After That Try Your Best To Move On.


Because Your Heart Will Find It Easier To Move On,


If She Forgives You For What You have Done.





Let Her Go, You Need To Seriously Move On And Forward With Your Life.





Either Way, You're Going To Be More Then Okay.


Best Wishes.





Okay, Gotta Blast. Catch You Later! =-]
wow, this is like the worse thing you can ever do to a girl.... I would suggest you talking to her and being honest with her... If she doesn't accept, then she knows her reasons... my (now husband) cheated on me when we were going out and he repented himself... this was only one time as well... he kinda sounded like you... I took him back, but till now... I am still jealous and I've learned to trust him... but, theres still that little thing that I will never forget that he did cheat on me... try it she might give you a chance ...IF SHE REALLY LOVES YOU...I FORGAVE MY (NOW HUSBAND) AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ALMOST 8 YEARS! I HAVEN'T SEEN HIM OR ACTED AS IF HE WAS CHEATIN ON ME
You sound desperate, girls find that to be a weakness. Just be her friend, show her that you'd never do that again. When you guys are close again, then just make contact, not like hooking up yet, but like when you're talking casually put your arm around her. (Just as friends) If she shrugs you off, wait longer and maybe it will work. But remember that she doesn't have to forgive you. I'm still friends with all of my ex's but one of them is just a little awkward to be around because he wasn't really that good to me, so I distance myself from any old feelings. Maybe thats what shes trying to do. I mean if you cheated she HAD to break it, she probably wasnt too excited about it either.


Good luck.


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Obviously, apologizing won't do any good. If you keep doing it, she'll just get annoyed and you'll look desperate. Just wait things out and try to be the best friend you can be to restore what magic you had. But do not, I repeat NOT, try to force this or rush it. Just let things run smoothly and wait a while until she's comfortable, then casually discuss your relationship. Just don't be too hasty, and try to befriend her, like I've said. She may never trust you again, but this is the best road to take to amend that. Good luck.
Don't cheat. NEVER. First of all I hope you get a good lesson out of this. Next, just leave her. If you hurt her then thats enough. I personally wouldn't want to be near that person who cheated on me so just try talking to her. If she tells you she still loves you, do the imposible to gain her trust back. Also, if you still have a chance with her go for it and make yourself clear that it won't happen again. Hopefully it works for you budd.











And my ex girlfiend............No, that hoe can go **** herself [[altho I admit I still got feelings for her]]. She needs to go lie to sum other *****. I hate her so much.

Is it normal to feel a little bit jealous of one of your ex friends?

long ago i have a friend that i thought it was my best friend , our relationship got so competitive, she always told me how pretty people told her she was(that's something I'm not going to deny) i never got any complement from her, even till this day i still don't(we talked for the 1st time in 5 years a month ago) the only thing she notice about me was that i don't have acne anymore... we have talk about whats been of our lives she got married to a hindu engineer and shes not working , even though I'm happy with my life i have a wonderful boyfriend and have a government job, i feel a little jealous of her , i think i have work a lot harder for the little things i have and she just comes and marries this guy and gets everything fast , i might be a little silly for this, but there's something that i cant understand regarding her and its why she cant see anything good of me, now shes overweight and i still tell her how pretty she looks, but from her i only get a ';I'm glad that you are ok'; isn't supposed to friends give complements? and then i don't understand why i feel jealous ?Is it normal to feel a little bit jealous of one of your ex friends?
Shes probably just one of them people that dont do compliments. I wouldnt be jealous if i were you. She probably has no goals in life, no job just relying on her husband. Working might sound a bit annoying, when she gets everything served on a plate, but atleast it will make you a better person. You can go to work, socialise, and look forward to coming home to your boyfriend. She will be at home bored out of her mind. Shes not the nicest person in the world. What your doing builds character, she will be an up-her-own-**** girl all her life now. Dont be jealous shes nothing seriously ;) You concentrate on your life with your boyfriend and any future children you may have, and she can carry on with her hindu engineer and a diet. Dont give her any more compliments, shes milking it ;) Is it normal to feel a little bit jealous of one of your ex friends?
yes


u want to be like her

How to forget about your ex when your friend not around for you?

we have been together for nearly 3years. we broke up one week ago but he already have a new girlfriend. :( so i want to forget about him but i find its really hard because my friends is so busy with study and i'm here alone and miserable. what should i do?How to forget about your ex when your friend not around for you?
Find somebody that you like and flirt around and try and date him


or if your just sick of guys give yourself some time off of guys and get into something that you like to do or just find a new hobbie

Would you re date your Ex? Would you still be friends with your BFF who flirted back when he flirted with her?

im madly in love wit my ex boyfriend, Richie. Hes my type, im totally obsesesed w/ him, and my friend LET him flirt with him, now shes not my bff anymore. Heres the story.





It all started when the new boy, Mike D showed up in music class. It was all down hill from there. Hes shorter then me, skater boy type, skater boy hair too. i couldn't resist. I started liking him, and he liked me. I was still MADLY in love with Richie, but he was bein a jerk at da time. Me and mike exchanged #, and.. yeah. I broke up w/ richie, he gave me the finger. I started to resist mike, and i was back ( always was) into richie. Heres what they both did to me.





RIchie: threw penny at my eye; Flirted with my best friendS ( asked my BFFL OUT!!!! i cried forever) continusly flirted with my BFFL, i cry...; teased/ made fun of me


Mike: made me jeouls; stole my things; let his friends sing ';heartless'; to me.


How would you feel after a whole summer? PLEEESE HEEELP!!!!! ( me verrry sad now...) :'(Would you re date your Ex? Would you still be friends with your BFF who flirted back when he flirted with her?
not worth cryin 4!!!!!


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keep ur head up @ all times!!!!! nd smile!!=]]]

What does it mean when your friend (ex) keeps mentioning about someone?

Me and my ex just recently became friends again... And she keeps mentioning about this guy we met in our class.. its not the first time she tells me how cool he is... She keeps saying how he's set a good impression of her and that she's happy to have him as a friend... and that its not like she's attracted to him but that she is just happy to have a friend like him.





Now I dont mind her talking about other guys.. but I feel like something is up with this.. Is she really just treating me like a regular friend or is testing to see my reactions?? Like if I'll get jelouse or something... I just dont understand why she would mention him so many times. Whats behind this psychollogy.What does it mean when your friend (ex) keeps mentioning about someone?
maybe its a little of both. call her on it, make fun of her for it. But know how it's coming out and mean it. If your jealous, say you're jealous. If you're not, say you're not. 2 very good calls though, she might like him and want to test your reactions, you know how fickle some chicks can be, especially younger.What does it mean when your friend (ex) keeps mentioning about someone?
trying to tellyou something.


your reason?
Well, look it goes this way:


1-she wants to make you jealous


2-she's really forgotten about you and has already moved on and you need to just be her friend.





Don't try to see what's not really there, maybe you're hoping she's doing this cause she wants you back. Reality hurts but not as much as dreaming.





However, maybe she does wants you back and doesn't know how to tell you or make you to ask her out. Just play along and if she wants you she'll get tired and tell you flat out if not then just try to not get your hopes up anyway.good luck
If you still like her and you know she still likes you then well I'd say tell her that it bothers you that she's always talking about this guy
trying to make you jealous and it is working!

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What do you do when your ex friends wont let stuff goand get a lot of people against you?

Highschool is full of DRAMA. My friend S takes things out of proportion. One day we were on the phone and she was telling me all of this stuff about how J is such a ho and telling me a lot of sexual things that she has done. And on top of that, S was doing sexual things with the guys that J had a claim on. She said that she didnt care about J and that she was doing that to get back at her for all of the drama that J put us through and that she didnt like or care about her.I basically told her that she was being fake because she would be telling me all of this stuff about her but then get on Facebook threads and tell her that she needs to raise her standards. She didnt like how I was being blunt and honest basically, so she started some stuff that was really stupid but it escalated and it has been two months and S and J are the best of friends. We dont talk to each other anymore. They have got a lot of people against me and it has gone as far as this guy posting embarassing stuff onlineWhat do you do when your ex friends wont let stuff goand get a lot of people against you?
I say shrug it off, I all will blow over eventually.





Plus the less you look like it's affecting you, the less it will matter to the rest of them, they will just be wasting energy!What do you do when your ex friends wont let stuff goand get a lot of people against you?
i'd say pretend you don't have internet and if anyone approaches you about it, tell them it aint true without getting defensive. People like a show, so don't give'em one. Don't worry about ex friends and just chill out till it blows over. You know who you are and what you stand for.
What you said to her about raising her standards is/was exactly what a true best friends should say. Not only should she raise her standards, but actually hold herself in higher regards. Demand better and you will get it, otherwise you are allowing oneself to be stepped on and treated wrong. Take your own advise. Keep to your guns. Expect to be treated right, hold your head up and stand proud. You can't keep people from having a bad opinion about you. BUT you can keep them from being right! I know it's not easy and it may get worst before it gets better. In the end, later in life, you will come out closer to the top, while they end up towards the bottom. Behavior such as theirs always has a way of catching up and biting one in the butt. It sounds as if you've got a better head on your shoulders than them, this will benefit you so much more. Stay strong and stand your ground. Just believe in yourself. Plus, with friends like them, who needs enemies?!
Living well, driving a cool car and looking hot is the best revenge.





Sorry, but it's true.





And if you keep your mouth shut and a smile on your face, nobody will know what you're thinking and they'll be like ';dammmmmn, she's not saying NUTHIN'; and eventually it will all blow over.





PS---watch what you post online--myspace, facebook, etc. It all sits out there....and a future employer 10 years from now could dig it up and you'd be like ';sh!t, why did I just get fired???';
people turn on people all the time,it hurts more when there like family and you trust them but thats life.if these so called friend's are doing something to hurt you then get away from them.let them play there kid games.your better then them,move on.
my suggestion to you is...if there are bad things posted online about you then print !! With the persons screenname who says it!! Thats the first! The second thing...I'm not sure what grade you are in ..but if you are ';friends'; are treating you like this..you don't need them..In just a short period of time you will be going out into that big scary world(and yes it is big and scary at times) and making a life for yourself and they will have nothing to do with your success in life or lack there of..So focus on your life..and ignore them..I know its hard..trust I know..but you have to find balance for yourself otherwise you will be very unhappy..hope this helped! Good Luck!
well if i were u id tell um to buzz off if she was your true friend she would forgive u. it shouldnt matter anyways cause there friends now.
Well those girls obviously aren't nice people and don't deserve a good friend like you which they will figure out one day. Maybe you should just try and talk to these girls, tell them ';You don't have to be friends with me but I'd appreciate it if you would just stop talking bad about me'; or something along those lines. Just realize that these girls can't bring you down if you're confident in yourself. And the people they are getting against you must not know you or care to take the time to and just going by what others say which are not nice people either. It's unfortunate people are like this but you can't let a great person like yourself (which I'm sure you are) get to torn up about it. Smile! =)
id make a personal visit to her house and say ';lets talk';.. talk openly and honestly and say.. we both need to grow up and quit harrassing each other and saying this and that... just be women enough to put it aside and go on with your lives...
That's why they're 'ex' friends. Take comfort in the fact high school is ONLY 4 years, the drama ends when school is over. Your friend is doing 'stupid' by using sex to get back at someone for some slight, putting herself in danger of any STD on the guys AND at risk of getting pregnant. It's pretty moronic actually.





You can just refuse to listen or discuss anything like that, tell her you've got to go, hang up, invent some reason to just stop the rant. It's not something you have to listen to, after all. And it won't help the other person so just give yourself a break and refuse to take part in any of it.
Doesn't sound like';S'; and ';J'; are worth worrying about.You know you were only telling the truth.Maybe ';S'; and ';J'; deserve each other. You may be able to get the guy that is saying stuff but I would just ignore him. Don't know how bad it is though so really can't tell. People that know you, will know the truth.
You can do two things. You can play into their games and let them win. Or, you can laugh and walk away from it all. You are in high school and it may be tough to realize but someday you will look back and laugh. So just laugh it off now and you will be way ahead of the game. Trust me, don't waste your breath on people that don't deserve it.
good grief, that's why im glad i'm out of school. all you can do is chalk it up and keep it movin'. if it's true or not they can't prove it not can they really judge they probably doin the same thing.books, books, study, study. this will past,leave alone.
Know that after high school, you won't have to deal with this garbage anymore. GOOD FOR YOU for taking the high road on this, and don't be afraid to be honest. The only people who don't like honesty are people who are afraid to 'fess up to their own demons. Right now, try to ignore it, and maybe try making a new facebook account and constrate on your studies so you don't have to go to the local collage where they will probably go to. Good luck!
well. true wille full of drama high school is survivable. and well dont worry about it. just move on.
i agree w/ them it will blow over but it might tkae some time and it was very hard to understand what u were sayin





good luck to u
ignore J so u dont have to hear bout S
Ignore it and maybe it will go away or she will start picking on someone else. If it bothers you that bad get even! I know that's wrong but sometimes it's necessary. Good luck!

Is It Wrong To Date Your Friends Ex?

Ok, my friend went out with this boy in 5th grade we are now 9th graders and we still talk to him. Well i call him one date because i wanted to see how he was doing and we just got to talking for like 2 hours. And after that we talked ever day. Well a few days ago he told me he like me and i kinda feared this would happen and i like him to because he makes me laugh and we can just talk and talk. But right now im trying to push him away because i dont want us to get involved. I told him that since he dated her i dont think we should date and he said it was 4years ago so why should it matter. I kinda been mean to him but he still talks to me. I havent told my friend yet because im afraid of what she might say. But if you have a suggestion please post.Is It Wrong To Date Your Friends Ex?
while in some cases dating a friend's ex is wrong, in your case i don't see it as a problem. i agree that since it's been 4 years that it doesn't really matter, but still, talk to you friend and see exactly where she stands with this boy. let her know that you like him. it may seem harder to do but it would be better to talk. i know, i've been in the same situation as you are and i explained to my friend how i felt. she understood and said she hoped i was happy. i hope that helps you.Is It Wrong To Date Your Friends Ex?
IMO, i think it's wrong to date your friend's ex- but then again this situation is different- since when your friend dated him- they were like 10/11- when relationships aren't that serious. maybe you can discreetly fish around for what your friend who think/do about this situation.
Tell your friend, and see if she cares. If she's over him and she doesn't care, then tell the guy it's okay. Explain to your friend what happened between you and the guy lately, and hopefully she'll understand. Don't be afraid to do anything. It just means your backing down, and it'll make everything harder. Good luck. =]

Who do you contact if a DCFS Invgtr went to H.S. & is friends with your ex and is biased against you?

My current (well now ex) boyfriend is an alcoholic. He got violent one night and I called the police and had him arrested and pressed charges. I got an Order of Protection %26amp; everything for my children %26amp; I. DCFS was called in. This investigator hates me! She went to H.S. w/my daughter's dad. She told him to seek custody of his daughter, even though he is a known drug dealer - I talked 2 the sheriff %26amp; narcotics %26amp; they know him very well, just can't catch him. The DCFS chick refused to take my report when my daughter told me that she found bags of pot in his garage when she was there. She told me, ';Keep it up Heather %26amp; I'll take your kids away';. The Sheriff listened. Now mind you, I am such a horrible mother she told my daughters dad to take custody of her - but she NEVER once contacted my sons father about how horrible I am. I wrote to all of the major Chicago newspapers, Lisa Madigan, both IL Senators my State Rep. and a slew of other people. I am hoping someone can tell me what to do. She is biased %26amp; doesn't even think about my daughter. A drug dealer versus a Mom who had a bad boyfriend but did the right thing and had him arrested and thrown in jail?Who do you contact if a DCFS Invgtr went to H.S. %26amp; is friends with your ex and is biased against you?
She has a conflict and should have recused herself from the investigation. Write or otherwise contact your local office and ask that a new investigator be assigned since this one has a previous relationship with your ex.Who do you contact if a DCFS Invgtr went to H.S. %26amp; is friends with your ex and is biased against you?
Contact the Illinois Governors office and they will connect you with the private office of the head of DCFS and you will get results because the governors office will do follow up on the matter.~!!!

Will u still be friends with your ex or u just deleted him/her from your contact?

Why am asking this question is because i have faced this situation before and non of them i have ever contacted again. I'm curious to know how others are working on this? Care to share?Will u still be friends with your ex or u just deleted him/her from your contact?
Usually they'd be deleted, but there are some people who'd make good friend, especially if you meet them through a friend, or run into them alot. Of course, some of them aren't mature enough to handle a friendship. I'm trying to say sometimes there's that grey area where you have to decide if there's any value in a friendship. For me, usually there's a time to move on, but sometimes having a friend with some common interests, even though there's no sparks, is a blessing.Will u still be friends with your ex or u just deleted him/her from your contact?
stays as friends as long as both have parted on good terms and understand that it is friends only from now





if other party is still holding on hopelessly, then break away completely for his or her sake.





if your new other half is uncomfortable of you still meeting up with your ex, then avoid being too close.
With my last ex, we ignored eachother for the first couple months because he was mad at me for breaking it off, but sooner or later we became friends again. It all depends on the relationship, it can go either way, you'll never know until you actually break up with them (or they break up with you).
Count your losses and move on.
i think just be friends. its cool to have friends cos if you be enemies with someone, its just not worth it...
delete them, no point of keeping them around
delete, when i'm done ,i'm done...........
im still frenz with them...
i always try to be bestfriends with my ex cause there should be no reason you werent just as close as you were before the relationship even started unless he/she cheated on you or lied or did something to harn you emotionally of physically
its always cool to be friends.

What if your ex goes out with your friend?

I am just wondering how other people look at this situation? Would you be mad at him or her? Or would you just be happy for both of them? Would you even continue talking to them?What if your ex goes out with your friend?
i'd be p!$$ed @ dat h0e


but for the sake of my friend i'll just grit my teeth n hide it





teen girls plz?


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Friends with your ex? please help me?

Please help me, i dont know what to do anymore. I dated this girl for over a year,she is drop dead gorgeous i might add. We broke up about 6 months ago because i cheated on her, yes i know i am an idiot. it was teh biggest mistake of my life, i needed space and i got extremely drunk one night and made the wrong choice. i can never take it back, and she left me. Now, we stopped talking for these months because she wanted nothing to do with me, it killed me and i know i hurt her. But recently i see her around, she isnt dating anyone but yet i see how happy she seems. She never seems to be upset like me, and it seems like she is living her life which is good i want her to be happy. GIRLS, does she ever think of me? Do you think i cross her mind ever? is it even possible to be her friend? I want to be with her, i know i am supposed to marry her, i know for a fact..but i just want to talk to her, what do I do now? Any chances?Friends with your ex? please help me?
If that were my sister, I wouldn't want you anywhere around her. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. A guy who loves her and is supposed to marry her doesn't put himself in situations where he might cheat. If she is happy without you, leave her alone. I would not see a future with you.Friends with your ex? please help me?
Who will forgive what you have done???


Leave this girl in peace.


Try to find another girl and don't do the same mistake again.
give her all the time she needs if she cant live with out you she will come to you.
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Being friends with your ex?

For some reason I don't find it to be right, it's never happened to me; also I think it kind of depends on how deep/far this relationship was. Well I'd like to know what others think on that.Being friends with your ex?
i don't like being friends w/ ex too because i have experienced it before.





if you're friend w/ an ex, it will be difficult for both of u to move on.Being friends with your ex?
You can be friends. if things were bad, you can take time to forgive but being friends is possible
I relationship that last a month or less for me and maybe i could be friends. Emotions would be far to much to just brake off and be friends. To see someone that you truly love with someone else couldn't be easy for anyone. It's never worked for me but good luck.
I don't think it's a good idea. you just end up getting hurt again in the long run.
It happens. It took awhile but I'm friends with my ex-wife again.
A friendship with ones ex should only be active if there are children involved. You break up with a person because you aren't compatible. Things don't change that much.

Is it ever alright for your friend(s) to date your EX?

me and my friends always get into it when it comes to answering this question. some feel that its FINE to do it, and others feel that you should NEVER mess around with your friends EX out of respect for them.





i always feel that it depends on how close you are to that friend...theres a difference between respecting a friend youve known for years, and someone you just met in class or at a party the other night.





i would say that it depends on how that person feels about the EX, i mean if they're over them then so be it...but if not...ouch?.





ive already been through this kind of drama before...but it was a family EX rather than a friends...so im trying to see what you guys think of this situationIs it ever alright for your friend(s) to date your EX?
I pretty much agree with everything that you said. If that's really your friend, then you love them (agape), therefore, you would never do anything to hurt them (aka, date their ex-love)..





BUT, think about this, if you've dated someone, broke up with them, then your ex turned out to be your friend's soul mate. Who are you to let your jealousy get in the way of their happiness?





Don't just date your friend's ex just for the fun of it. Make sure you can actually see something good coming out of the relationship (and not just self-satisfaction). In addition to that, if your friend isn't over that person, and you DO feel as if you have a future with your friend's ex, then give your friend time to heal, then go for it. If it's really worth it, you'll be willing to wait a long time (if you care about other's approval).





I hope this helped =]Is it ever alright for your friend(s) to date your EX?
Well well well.


Just recently a best friend of mine went out with my ex. I was so angry. I was over him though, it just got to me because she didn't seem to respect me when I told her not to go there. She said she wanted me to be happy, but she went out with him anyway.





She is known for effing up relationships all the time, and they don't even last a month at times. She was telling me she wanted a new start, but I said how can you have a new start that begins in the past?





Anways, I can't bear to hear her talk about him infront of me. It just f**ks me off! Gurr. I'm getting annoyed talking about it hahaha. So I think only if the friend is okay with it and gives you the go ahead you can go for it! if not, stay away!


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Is it actually possible to stay friends with your ex?

My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago and said he wanted to stay friends.i decided to give it a try but am having a hard time doing this for i still have feelings for him even through he has none for me anymore. I don't know if it is possible or even how much longer i can keep being only friends yet i would hate to lose him entirely.Is it actually possible to stay friends with your ex?
It is possible but not when one has strong feelings for the other still. You have to give it some time first.


Tell him you don't want to lose him altogether but you need time to heal first and when you are ready, you will call him.Is it actually possible to stay friends with your ex?
u have to get over him first in that time when u don't have filling 4 him u can be his friend but now u cant just it time
please do not listen to anyone who says that its okay. ex's are called ex for a reason, when you remain friends thats just saying im not over you, i still have feelings for you, thats keeping the door open for trouble, he wont be able to have complete comfort with new relationships if youre in the picture and the new gf might not like it either same goes for you...you guys owe it to urselves to just let go, once you get over eachother then yall can be cool, but friendship involves intimacy and bonding which is nothing but problems for ex's
Definitely no....if he has no feelings for u anymore, why does he even wants to be friends....is there any other motive ??
face it, things change. when you break up, it changes. you can't deny it. even if you were to get back together eventually, it wouldn't be the same.....move on, don't waste your time on someone who does not have feelings for you. you will end up hurt. it already hurts doesn't it?
NO! He will keep asking you for sex.
when my wife and i divorced, i hated her. but... over time, and with my new marriage, my ex and i became better friends than when we were married. so yeah... some times, it can work out. best of luck to you.
i was in the same situation....and we managed to patch things up after the ';aftermath'; of a relationship and now we are friends.....but i still to this day have some feeling for her and it is hard to see her going out with other men.....but at the end of the day i aint going to lead my life around wondering who she is going to get it on with next and get on with mine as much as possible and enjoy myself and try to meet new people....if he doesnt have feelings for you now then he never will truely
No i don't think you can be friends unless being friends means meeting once in a long time and catching up.And it also means not getting in the way of others
girl give urself time- get over him and then see what is it that u want, if u sitll wnan be frends then go ahead, but now that u ar so vulnerable ..it isnt the best thing to do.





and what makes u think dat being frends means he is gonna be in tuch with as much he is now? i mean even that cud fade away.





he broke up with u so its easy for him to feel less guilty by offerin a hand of frendship.





take ur time , when u are stronger , decide what u wanna do...bythen u may have found urself a friend and /or lover fr keeps!!
I think only if you keep the friendship on a very simply level. Once you get too close, there is a grey area where you have to ask yourself, who's your best friend, your ex or your current lover? Your best friend should always be your lover, anyone else, including ex's should be secondary friends that don't come close to the bond you have with the one your with.
sure. as long as things did not end bad. two of my best friends are my ex's.
I didn't think so until I recently became friends, (hated him for a long time for the things that happened in our marriage) with my ex husband. Its about moving on.
OMG!! dont u hate when guys tell u that after they break up with u. like thats even possible,lol! yea it is hard to be friends with someone especially since u guys were in love, but what u need to do is keep him at a distance and hang out with ur girls. But stay away from romantic movies and love songs bcuz that only makes it worse. If that does not work try getting involved with something that really interests u
I think you should distance yourself from him. How are you suppose to move on if you still see him? Not a chance! Being his friend is only giving you hopes that are not even there to begin with. It sounds like ex has moved on maybe you should too.
of course you can still be friends. everything might be weird for the first month or so but after you get past the weird feeling of being around them then you can. one of my exs is my best friend now. it didnt start out that way right after we broke up but breaking up shouldnt end a good friendship
If one wishes to be miserable, I expect that it may be possible.
Oxytocin, the female hormone for physical bonding will not allow you to simply go back to being ';friends'; with a male lover who is not longer interested in being with you. He has moved on and in his attempt to soften the ';blow'; of complete separation, may have suggested that you stay ';friends';. However, that is not possible. What kind of friendship can you have if his feelings for you have changed or gone away? Why would he even want you in his life to remind him of a failed relationship?


You are going to be hurt seeing him in a romantic relationship with someone new and if he is really concerned about your feelings, he will not let that happen right away. You have already lost each other. It is not good for you to try to hold on to the past by trying to be his friend. You must also MOVE ON. Best wishes.
No.
It takes time. You won't get over it so quickly, so some time apart may be needed before you attempt to maintain a friendship.
I dont think so...Becos it would be so weird ..i mean the feeling~ so No..but some people can stay friends with their EX
There are people who are friends it s how you control your feelings, if you cant then go ahead tell him that this is not possible. enjoy your life, hehas decided to break up now you both are different, you can go ahead and do what you want
...I did..all mates with my ex's...even the ex husband..but we were both over it...life had moved onwards...but it can be done...think be a tough one for you though..too many feeelings...good luck...
If u have feeling for him then don't be friend with him because down the road he will find another girl and if u are still friend with him and by that time if u still hae feelings for him u will hurt badly. Is better to just not be friend.
ya, of course, take our time to get used with it


my ex-bf is still my classmate, neighbour, want or not, we see each other everyday. gain a friend is better than gain an enemy. be friend with our ex.. best wishes to you

Does being friends with your ex help you win her back? PLEASE HELP?

Ok my ex girlfriend broke up with me in march. The break up was on good terms and we both agreed to it. We were going out for 5 years, I am now 22 and she is 21.





During our relationship we were best friends and loved each other unconditionally and since we broe up we are still best friends. We hang out with each other alot and have the same group of friends and we love each others company.





I love her to the end of the earth and would do anything for her even if that means stepping back for a while no matter how hard. Don't tell me to give up because love is a powerful thing and I have thought about it long and hard and AM NOT going to give up.





The only thing is she lived in france for a year for college and when we broke up she started likin this french ****. She went back for a holiday and I think she mite have gone to see him but she is with her friends. She is coming back soon to go back to college so should I worry about this french ********??





Please give me some advice on how I can win her over.





Aidan ;)Does being friends with your ex help you win her back? PLEASE HELP?
No.





This is the male equivalent of ';If I have sex with him, will he fall in love with me?';





The answer is the same: Why would anyone buy the cow when they are already getting the milk for free?





I don't see what you can do about her new boyfriends. If you cause trouble, no more friendship - and everyone will probably think you're a dick as well.





Tell her how you feel and that you want her back. The alternative is that you get to sit there and watch her move on to someone else.Does being friends with your ex help you win her back? PLEASE HELP?
welll if you really did love her you'd be happy for her





and if you love her soo much why did you agree to breaking up





your fault tbh
Talk to her, the best thing you can do. When she comes back arange to meet up and tell her how you feel. I know how strong love can be and if you think its worth fighting for got for it, but if she says no, you will have to step back from her so you can at least try to find a way to just be her friend.
Dude if she loves you she will come to you, don't let this control your life.


There are plenty more chicks out there if this one doesn't work, and you WILL find one you love as much as this chick if not even more.

Are you best friends with your ex?

';m Best Friends with one of my ex bf's hes the only ex I'm good friends with (No we did not break up for anything bad)We actually had a good very good relationship


He Came over Last Tuesday since I haven't seen him in so long I was soo happy! Along with my best friend, Kinda like a get together


There was a lot of Flirting going on between us and I couldn't help but smile so hard the whole time he was there, Yes I'm aware i still have feelings, the thing is sometimes it is hard being friends with him and I know I need a break to get myself together But I'm afraid to tell him that cause I don't want to scare him,confuse him or lose him as a friend. Overall I just want him to understand me I need to talk to him about things and I don't know how P.s He has a Girlfriend and I'm fine with it I'm very happy with his decision I actually spoke to Her about things so there is no awkwardness between usAre you best friends with your ex?
I would actually tell him that you need a little time away from him, not forever, but time to get over him. I think that he would understand that. You still want to be friends, but need to get him out of your head and move on yourself!

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Still Friends With Your Ex?!?

OK - me and my ex broke up on good terms over a year ago after living together for 5+ years - we came close to marriage a couple of times but it never happened because we were both hesitating. Now we are still hanging out once a week and talk on the phone 3-4 times a week. I've gone out with two girls in the mean time but am not in a serious relationship right now and so does she.





I do not think that we would remain friends if we were in a relationship though...





What do you think? Has anyone out there remained friends with their ex and how long did this friendship lasted?... Still Friends With Your Ex?!?
My ex and I stayed friends for another year after we broke up. We even moved in together as roommates (separate bedrooms) for six months. When I moved out, he stopped contacting me completely. And I only moved out because I was going back home for the summer (we were in college). He had plans to come visit me just three weeks after I moved out. For me, I've realized I only stay friends with an ex until I'm finally ready to move on. I knew I didn't want to date this guy again, but I wasn't ready to move on yet either. You're probably right, you will stop speaking when one of you is in a relationship. But, how likely are either of you to start dating someone else when you spend that much time together? I didn't date anyone else the entire year we were friends simply because he occupied all of my time. You won't move on until you're ready to, or until she is, and that forces you to not spend time with her. As long as you're happy with where things are right now, keep it up. Just stay a bit guarded because sooner or later one of you will meet someone else, and they won't be cool with you being best buddies with your ex. It is perfectly acceptable to remain on amicable terms with an ex. I wouldn't advise the type of friendship you have though. But like I said, you won't stop it until you're ready to, just like I did. It's always so much easier to tell someone what to do when you're on the outside! Best of luck! You guys will figure it out sooner or later!Still Friends With Your Ex?!?
Well me and my ex broke up about five months ago and we tried to remain friends but in the end as soon as he found a gf I was out the door. I have a bf and still wanted to be his friend but in the end it is a choice, he said he was my best friend and yet as soon as he got a new gf he doesn't want anything to do with me. So I mean I don't know it may be able to work but just from my experience I don't think it is fair to you or your emotions to rely on the friendship.
I dated a guy for 3 years going on 4 and i can tell you we could never be just friends. Although every relationship is different we always seemed to get jealous if one was dating someone else. It was better for us to be done with it. Plus, i doubt whoever you date now would be ok with you still hanging out and talking to your ex that you lived with..just put yourself in their position. Best of luck.
I am still friends with my ex. We split up almost two years ago now and had been together for about 8 before we split.





I have a new boyfriend but he doesn't like talking about him too much but other than that we get on great.





It can work but it depends on each individual person.
I'm friends with all my exes. i think its good to keep ties with someone youve been with for so long. Ive always become close to them and like to talk and hang out every now and then. if you truly dont feel feelings for her still, stay friends as long as you can!
Personally no I have'nt stayed friends with an ex- I don't think it's healthy to. There are so many people in this big wide world that it's easy to make new friends. Too toxic, you can't grow or move on otherwise.
I am friends with my ex husband. I am remarried, we don't meet for coffee or anything but he does call once in a while to see how I'm doing. I think that is nice, I don't want any enemies! xox
yea i remained friends with to of my ex's one just recently is gone cause she played around the other im still friends with an have been friends with her for about 4years an still going



I have exed my X
My ex-husband and I were best friends for over 5 years, and high school sweethearts. We decided to divorce 2 years ago and we still talk to this day. We talk about anything and everything.. I see him every time he is in town and we still have a ton of fun together, even if he has a gf or not. He still looks at me as a best friend because he knows he can trust me. I know in my heart I would never go back with him but our personalities just click so well, that I know we are just meant to be really good friends.





It really depends on the type of person your ex is, I have some other good friends that are ex's.. and some that I would never want to see again.

Is it wrong to be upset about your friend hanging out with your ex?

My ex-best-friend (ex because of this situation) was hanging out and talking to my ex-boyfriend. It hurt me that she was doing this, and I told her so. She would lie to me about talking to him, saying she wasnt when she really was, and talked badly about me behind my back. She said I was trying to dictate her life and now hates me. Are friends supposed to act like this? Should I not have told her how I felt?Is it wrong to be upset about your friend hanging out with your ex?
It is kind of an ';unwritten rule'; that friends don't do that. I had the same problem a few years ago with my friend (then best). We got into a huge fight that lasted months and I don't think we ever got past it...there's a cloud that lingers.





So in summary... No...they are NOT supposed to act like that. And you were more than correct in telling her how you felt!! She was your best friend!! She should have respected your wishes!! At the VERY least, have asked you if you were ok with her hanging out with him! I'm sorry you had to go through that.Is it wrong to be upset about your friend hanging out with your ex?
A real friend wouldn't have never acted like that. you were not wrong for telling her how you feel honesty is the best way to go.
Sorry but this doesn't sound like a friend to me. I mean she has now turned it on to you and doesn't want to be your friend cuz she wants your ex. Say good riddance to them both and move on sister. Good luck.
You were right to tell her how you feel every friend have a friendship code where you don't go behind your best friend back and talk with her ex she wasn't your friend from the jump if she did that you dont need her she only want what you had thats why she's talking to him leave him and her alone its for the best if she's talking about you behind your back to him she was never your friend she just hung out with u to get to him she was probably the reason for you and his break up
it's good you told her how you felt. honesty is good. find a friend who appreciates your honest nature
I dont think she is a true friend at all she is more of a backstabber. If you didnt want her to talk to him she shouldnt of if she was ur true friend.
um.....maybe it was good that u told her how u feel because first after when he stops hanging out with her she is going to see that she talked behind your back and she is going to feel sorry for her self that she talked behind your back to your ex boyfriend and maybe your ex boyfriend is trying to get u joules or your friend u never know....

Are you friends with your ex? Does it every make you like ur partner more?

Well let me start off by saying, I stay friends with all my ex's. I'm usually friends with them first anyways, just because someone sucks as a boyfriend doesn't ALWAYS mean they suck as a friend.





Anyways I was talking to my ex last night, and I don't know. I got all stupid and sappy, and butterflies about him. Then he started ragging on my boyfriend about how bad he was for me, and how he just doesn't think that he's the right guy for me etc. So afterwards I was all twisted up, one thinking about my ex which made me all excited like when you have a ';crush'; in grade school, and at the same time made me feel like puking because I wad disgusted that I couldn't control my emotions. you know?





So I went to bed (this was at like 4am, we had been talking for 6 Hrs). The next day though I felt ';renewed';. Its like I appreciated my boyfriend even more because I knew he was a good man, good father... (Cont)Are you friends with your ex? Does it every make you like ur partner more?
Think about the reasons why he said the things he did. Sometime you can have a good relationship with someone but randomly have those feelings for someone else. I'm in a great relationship but occasionally i get crush feelings for someone. I think it's normal! Maybe he had some good reasons why he said what he said. Unlimitedly you have control over your relationships and your actions, not him. Don't let him confuse you!

How do u get over your old friends? and your ex that cheated?

iam in a new school and iam still not over my old best friends and just becuase iam in a new school and there not there treating me different and also there spreading rumors about me also and then my ex i broke up with him cuz he was cheating but i saw him in a park i got to and then he looked at me and i looked at him and then i left but then he told this gurl that wen he looked at me he relaized that he still loves me and he wants to get back i think i still lyk him and i dont wnna go back with him beacuase hes in another school and u never kno what he mite do just beacuase i not there and iam scared he mite cheat again what should i do in both questions i asked please answer me iam in chrisis :'/How do u get over your old friends? and your ex that cheated?
First off, this is no where near a chrisis. This is something you must learn to deal with. First things first. You are young, there will be many more boyfriends and many more breakups in the future. Its all part of the game. Every relationship will teach you something. And you just kind of have to learn that once in a while, something bad will happen to a good person. The only thing you can do is just accept it, do whatever you feel you need to do, and move on. The best advice someone gave me one time, and this goes to both of your questions is that nothing lasts forever. People will come into your life, and people will leave your life. I know you don't want to hear this, I sure didn't when I was in middle/high school, don't even think about love at your age. As far as your best friends go, make new ones. You said you're going to a different school right? I'm sure there are many people there who would love to have you as a friend. I don't know you, but I do know that there's always someone, somewhere who wants to be your friend (Sometimes many people from many different 'groups'.)So why not just take the opertunity to make some new ones? Also, when it comes to a relationship, trust is extremely important. If trust is lost, there's almost no way for it to work until that trust is back.





In short, my advice is this. If your 'best friends' are spreading rumors, then they're not really all that good of friends are they? Make some new friends and you'll be much happier. And you will find many more boyfriends in the next few years, so learn what you're looking for in a relationship and I promise you will find someone you care about and can trust. Don't get too stressed out, things will work out if you have patience and give them time.

Friends with your ex...?

I really want to stay friends with my ex boyfriend. It was a mutual break up. How do I go about doing this?Friends with your ex...?
Which is the reason to be friends again?.If you have a reason is because something very inside you is making noise.Remember this, something was there.Something very nice in the beginning,something magic.Always a memory might be around you like ghost.Is not easy, but you have the right to try It.Think about it.

Is it possible to be actual good friends with your ex?

my ex and I broke up a few weeks ago...he said i'm his best mate and nothing i say is going to change his mind that hes going to text everyday etc. This was last week and he has nearly kept up to that completely(with the exception of one day)...





He ended it and it was initially on shaky terms but we're okay now and there is no part of me that wants to get back together so that side of things are ok, though there is still part of me that finds it hard when he stops texting and the texts can be very similar to how they were before so its abit weird for me. I just don't no whether it's worth continuing like this or whether i should just stop replying?Is it possible to be actual good friends with your ex?
It's VERY hard to have a friendship after a break-up and to jump into the ';friendship stage'; RIGHT AWAY after breaking up is only going to hurt you. I would NOT by any means recommend doing that right away. Yes, it's possible but you need time away from each other to heal first. I learned that the hard when and when my ex found a new girl I was really devastated we ended up in a huge fight and he was one of my best friends and sadly I lost him for good.Is it possible to be actual good friends with your ex?
my ex is now my best friend. In the first months is weird, but now it so isn't. haha He even tells me everything about his current girlfriend and I do the same. It's fun. After you shared so many things with the person it's pretty cool to remain friends (x
Eventually the texts and calls will slowly fade away, then there will only be hello's when seen in public. When either one of you gets a ';new'; girlfriend or boyfriend they will not appreciate being chummy with their ex.
It's usually ok until someone new comes into the picture- then jealousy comes into play.
No. But you should have sex with his friends to get back at him.

How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?

I don't see how its possible for me to move on if I still wanna be with my ex bf. I get jealous even thinking of him with someone else. So how do you handle this???How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?
Just reminding yourself they are not with you anymore doesn't always work. There are just some ex's you just can't be friends with anymore because well, sometimes the baseline feelings just don't go away for a long time. I don't think there is a need to be rude about it and yes maybe one day down the road a friendship will rebuild but for now your emotional health is priority one and the friendship with him is a distant second.How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?
However much you want to remain friends with your ex, it's sometimes really difficult because you both may need to be with someone else. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being friends, you just have to make sure you don't get too jealous if he starts seeing another girl. It's difficult straight after a break-up becasue your emotions change and there are bound to be those little things that remind you of being together. I was in a similar position and wanted to speak/see my ex but it didn't seem like he wanted to at that stage. Now i've sorted myself out a bit and feel like i can actually survive without him! Perhaps leave it a few weeks then see how you feel towards him. Good luck xxx
i know exactly how you feel.


my ex and i broke up not too long ago and i still have feelings for him.





it's really up to you whether you wanna move on or not.





if you do wanna move on i say:


-try giving yourself space from him. it doesn't mean you have to totally ignore him, but try hanging out with a different group of friends if he's apart of your circle of friends


-take some time for yourself, do things you used to do when you were single; reading, hobbies, etc.


-friends! friends always help you through situations like these. rely on them to help you take your mind off of him





if you wanna keep going for him:


*yes, the breaking up part is the hardest stage to get over. but there are some things you can do in the healing process


-give him some space. you both need it, which is why the breakup occurred in the first place. this'll give you both time to think things out and get back to a clear, mental state of mind


-keep yourself busy; turn off your phone and just relax. sometimes you just need to get away from all the craziness in the world and just take some time for yourself





i hope this helps!


best wishes!
Im in the same boat as you. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, yet he wants to be friends and I told him NO, because to me it's not going to help me to move on. I told him we can't be friends and better not to talk anymore, although I miss him very much but I know there's no point at all of being ';friends';, not at this point of time at least.


Focus on yourself and don't even bother talking to him
if you still have feelings with your ex and you wanna get over him, it is best that you set distance between the two of you. it would be better and faster for you to heal and move on. esp. if you think he doesn't want to get back with you.





it would be an additional burden for you if you would keep in contact with him and you know you still love him.
Give yourself some space away from him. It sounds like you are not giving yourself a chance to grieve for the relationship, and by hanging on as friends, maybe there is a tiny little hope inside that you might get back together again?





You need to lose the love, and get used to just being friends. I don't know if it will work or not, but you owe it to yourself to heal.
how can you mone own when you still sleep together? why did you sllep with him as you are not with him?


%26amp; why you are not with him if you both have feelings?i dont untersrand........





if you CAN be with him then OK, nice, if not then YOU have ot stop talking ot him ,or NOT to see him


how you are now is really ont ok!!
hmm...this is a tough one..lol..


wat u can do is that u maintain to be NORMAL friends with him..and u should start meeting new guys..try making new frends..who knows? like that, u may develop a thing for other guy and u will start to forget ur ex..but remember, just act like normal friends..its for your own good..talk to him when he talks to you..
I say you need to work on your jealousy. He's not your boyfriend, so you need to remind yourself of that.





I'd say it's best you not contact him anymore or at least until you've gotten over him.
Just watch snuggle bunny and you'll feel better. :) Seriously though just take things day by day, talk to him. Have a serious talk with him about both of your feelings and see where that goes.
I'd just talk to him. Yall are buds, so just ask him about the breakup. Just say you still kinda like him.
It's gonna be hard which is why you have to try doubly hard to ignore him. Even when you guys may be hanging out as friends..You can be with hanging with someone but still ignore them because your personality and focus at the time is not mirroring them.





Eg. You guys are haning out and he's talking to you, and you're perky and bubbly and although you're listening you're also very aware of your surroundings, people passing by, a cute puppy...and he's talking and you cut him off and go that puppy is so cute!





I'm not saying it has to be exactly like that but it's like you're hanging on his every word. He has your attention but not your focus.





It is important that even if you don't feel that bubbly way to project that to him (don't go overboard that it's fake)because he'll see you as this bubbly, fun, great girl and start to wonder why he broke up with you.





Of course this isn't a guarantee that he'll run back to your arms but it could make him see beyond whatever it is that caused you guys to break up and want to get back together or at the very least secure you a spot in his life as one of his best friends. That positive attitude also helps you to get over him because in time it won't be an act it will come naturally and that positive energy projects positive people.





Good luck!





as you are like ball of energy and happiness and so in love with life and the things around you.

Is it easy to still be friends with your ex if you love them..?

he broke up with me wednesday. he told me last night he still wanted to be friends and i told him okay.. but i realized like 2 days before he broke up with me, that i really loved him. i never got the chance to tell him.. idk how hard this is going to be.. anyone in this same situation,, how did it work out.. i dont want to tell him, and ruin our friendship. but, its so hard, when you love someone, not to tell them how you feel.. i dont think i can be around him without, wanting him so much.





im 13 btw, hes 14. both in 8th grade.. have both the same mutual friends.. yeah. this is so hard. no way around itIs it easy to still be friends with your ex if you love them..?
No, it's friggin hard.


You feel yourself falling harder from him, and you see him moving on and that hurts.Is it easy to still be friends with your ex if you love them..?
No, it's very very hard.





When we broke up he said that he still wanted to be friends with me, and I agreed because I thought I would rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. It was very awkward because we had all this tension... When we actually started talking as friends do, he decided it would be a good idea to tell me about the girl that he wanted to date. It was horrible because I was still in love with him. I hated hearing him talk about her... Actually just talking to him in general because I wanted him back so much. I was crazy in love with him... Everytime I would talk to him I would have to fight back tears because I missed him so much. We had never said that we loved each other until the night we broke up. I told him that I loved him, and he said that he loved me, but we still had to break up. It was a really bad situation.





What I would suggest is that you take a while to get over him, hang out with some friends(other than him)... Go through all the steps of getting over him.. Cry, be mad, hate him, then finally you will get over it, and you can be friends. It may take a while.. It took me a few months to completely get over my ex, but I did. I think one of the reasons why our friendship didn't really work out was that we tried too soon after our break up to be friends. I think if I would have waited a few months to talk to him we would still be friends. I don't talk to my ex boyfriend at all anymore. The girl he wanted to date decided that she didn't like me, so he's not allowed to talk to me anymore.





It's been 6 months since we broke up, about 4 since we stopped talking completely. I'm over him now. I don't want him back. Part of me still misses him because he was my first love, but I'm over him. You never forget your first love I guess... I wish I could still be friends with him because he was the person I could tell everything to. I realize now that our relationship definitely had it's flaws, and that he wasn't as great as I thought he was. It took me forever to get over that boy. I cried for about a week without stopping. I still cried over months later. I did get over it eventually though. Now I'm just as happy, if not happier, than I ever was when I was with him.





So, it's not gonna be easy, but it can work. Just take time to get over him, and then try to be friends.





Sorry for such a long answer =/





Hope this helps! =)
No its not easy im sorry
I'm sorry but are you sure you are in love because you're really young. I am not saying it's impossible because it isn't. Just be sure you are before you start saying it. And for me it was really hard when ever me and my fiance broke up because everything reminded me of him so he was always on my mind. But now I have no worries because we are totally over the little kid break ups and we are a family now
firstly sad about it keep well n don't loose hope and secondly i do not think you can BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX yeah i strongly believe that as u always tend to remember the onl times when you'll are talking together so i feel itzz not possible n then itzz gonna be impossible 4 u to get out of him best luck anywayzz
I'm going through the exact same thing.


My boyfriend and I had been going out for 2 years...and some things happened that I shouldn't say, but we ended up breaking up like a week ago.


I love him...like really, I do and I know he loves me too, but we can't see each other anymore.


Our parents won't let us.


I'm 16 and he's about to be 17.


We are just friends for now, but it hurts so much.


I want so much more than that and so does he.


We can't do anything about it until I turn 18...until then, we're stuck in this cycle.


It sucks and it hurts...but I don't think there's much we can do.


The pain isn't going to go away for a while; that much, I know.


You should tell him, maybe he feels the same way about you.


If not, then it was worth a shot.


I'll be here if you need to talk.
I would think it would be even harder to be friends with someone you love.

How do you try to become friends with your Ex bf again?

Me n this boy went out three times before. The first time for about a year and i broke up with him. We became enemies and never really talked. We went out again because i told him i was sorry cuz i didnt really have a reason for breaking up with him. the second time was only for two or three days and he broke up with me. The relationship never seemed to work. It was always akward and kinda stupid. We were enemies again and didnt really talk until we both realized how stupid n immature we were for not talking. so we became friends and then we went out AGAIN! it was going really well and all the sudden he brakes up with me. It was very recent and I still dont know why. I can't make any sense out of it and i was crushed when he did it. I asked him if he wanted to be the way we were before, not talking and being enemies (i never liked that) and he said ';yes';. i dont understand and nobody else does either but i really want to be friends with him again but i know i will fall for him all over. What do i do?





Thank you for reading if you read the whole thing =)How do you try to become friends with your Ex bf again?
People do go out and break up and also make up again. So this is not that unusual, however, they do not ignore each other and become enemies. You sound a little more mature than him, in understanding it is unnecessary to ignore the person you once cared for. Perhaps he really does have feelings for you and cannot be friends right now. Or perhaps he thinks the right thing to do is ignore you since you are no longer involved.





If you still like him, and he is not returning your feelings then really your offer of friendship is not going to work, since you have feelings. I think the best thing to do is communicate with him. Even if he does not love you, you still deserve closure, so you can get on with your life. If he still loves you he and you, need to communicate.How do you try to become friends with your Ex bf again?
Idk either, my ex hates my guts, idk y. It was my fault I know. I tried apologizing and everything. I just stopped trying. When we pass each other in the hallway in school we act like we dont know each other. I knew him since 4th grade. 7 years and we just act like strangers. Make him laugh do stuff that he loves to do. You know him.