How to make your old friends wish they were your friend again?

I mean in a good way. Not like hanging out with the ';in'; group or dating hot guys.


I mean showing your ex-friends that your not so annoying, and that to see the good side of you, and that there's more to you than being wild. Like being loyal, and helping people. Giving good advice, and being there for someone.


Cause I am a really good friend like that, but last year I had a hard year and I just acted so weird and pathetic. But I still was always there for everyone, but they weren't there for me. I never changed in that way. Well it's a new year and time for new friends.


What's a good way to get my old friends to want to be back with me agian?


Thanks!How to make your old friends wish they were your friend again?
My old best friend from 4th grade is now the most popular girl in school.


I would join the school play and make sure they see it.


That's what I'm doing. And I love acting...

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Wait, why do some people tend to date an ex boyfriend's or girlfriend's friends or even best friends.?

i have seen some of my friends boyfriends or girlfriends date their ex friends. i mean it doesn't make any sense, just think about it how would you feel if your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is going out with your best friend or one of your friends.


i don't wanna stereotyping or anything it seems to happend mostly with caucasians. i don't really see that in african americans.





i believe an ex should be off limit to a friend. i could never be friend with someone who would go out with my ex.Wait, why do some people tend to date an ex boyfriend's or girlfriend's friends or even best friends.?
You're absolutely right. A friend of your ex should be off limits. Some people just don't have any boundaries, or they do it to get back at their ex, to show them that they have no respect for them. That's the only reason I can think of. There are too many other people in the world to have to date someone associated with your ex. Trust. ';-()

PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?

Let me start of by warning you that this is a little complicated, but I'm going to make it as simple as possible and try not to use too many useless details. Okay so my bestest frined invited me to her house for the first time a couple years ago and I met her brother for the first time. i already knew her parents. i was spending i few weeks with her family, just for the heck of it. And me and her brother Kasey hated each other on sight. I don't really know why, probably cause he was so arrogant and I was sassy in reply to his arrogance, but yeah we didn't hit it off. While over Teresa/Tess's (my best friend) house my other friend called and we got into a stupid fight. I was in the family room just flipping through the channel but not really watching the tv and I guess I looked upset cause Kasey actually sat down and asked me what was wrong. Up until then the only civilconversation we'd had was to ask the other to pass something at the dinner table, and that rarely happened. I reluctantly told him what had happened, and he pretty much tried to comfort me (he wasn't very good at it though) after that i think he just softened up towards me and we kind of became friends. About a week and a half later or so we went to the amusement park and went on the ferris wheel. Tess decided to sit that ride out and even to this day I could swear she planned it all out, but cliche as it was he made his move at the top of the wheel. he handed me a locket and told me it was tess's but she'd given it to him and told him to give it to someone special. I was still puzzled and he never did answer my question, he just leaned over and kissed me on the cheek and we pretty much spent the rest of the day holding hands and looking at Tess's smug smile. A few months later we broke up because he didn't think he could hand the distance, even though it wasn't all that far. We saw each other a few times after that and he finally broke down and told me that he made a really big mistake breaking up and that he was wrong and that if I could handle the distance then so could he so we tried again and we were pretty happy except for a few flaws. He had a bit of trouble controlling his emotions, It wasn't like he'd hit me or anything he just got really jealous or really mad or really depressed and there didn't seem to be a natural balance between them. The cause i soon found out by asking around was drugs. It really sucked to know that and I had to tell Tess but she couldn't bear to tell her parents so we tried to deal with it. It became a routine he would say he's clean and then I'd find out he wasn't. Back and forth. Tug O' War and eventually the rope snapped or more specifically i did I told them I couldn't take it anymore and that I wish i could help but obviously i couldn't and I left for good. Me and tess stayed bestest friend but I'd cut HIM out of my life completely. he called I blocked, he text I ignored, he pleaded I didn't hear it, but I wasn't heartless and I was worried tess gave me play by plays on how he was doing and it help a little. Eventually he got better and was able to quit and actually stay clean this time and he finally got in touch with me through his sister pleading his case to me. I finally talked to him. He begged me to come back. I told him I couldn't. Back and forth it went. We finally compromised on being just friend which was the best thing ever and made me so happy to know I could have him in my life and not be dating him. But if this is what's best for the both of us why does it feel so weird? so hollow like I'm faking it? I don't want to be with him but I don't want him to be with anyone else. I hope its just me being protective cause I've seen him sooo vulnerable at times, but how do I know if it's something more than that? I'm just so confused right now. Maybe it was better when we weren't talking at all? A little help from anyone...please.





Sorry this was so long I feel bad about adding in the useless details I said I wouldn't add in so sorry everyone %26lt;3PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?
Aww girl, I'm going to start by saying I'm very sorry about all of that. Drugs are a very hard thing to deal with in friends and boyfriends especially when you really care about them and you want them to get help. It's really good that he accepted help and is now clean for sure this time. I know it takes a few times before you can stay clean for a while and even then it's rocky. But he's trying so you have to see that and be thankful for it. I can tell you really care about him, I think that was the cutest thing the way y'all got together! You don't want to see him with anyone else because you do love him and that's also protectiveness but it might also be jealousy. Just think about everything with him, do you want to be with him again?


I can tell he cares for you just by the way you typed about everything that happened. I think he would be happier being with you, but is that what you want? It's your decision, do what's right for you. I hope everything works out and this helped somewhat!





Good Luck!PLEASE! URGENT! Is it weird to be close friends with your idiotic ex?
yes so dont be and can u please post his and urs age because that will help me re anwser this question
yes srry i didnt read it all i got bored at okay so my best friend....
yes
omg i stopped reading this at ';urgent';
it seems like you care for him, so why not be friends? you may not be over him yet, which is why you're acting jealous. give it time. however, if he relapses, i would cut off all ties with him for good, no question. let him know this too. good luck
ok, true enough the story was long but at least you wrote it correctly and properly. I enjoyed the reading though I did not enjoy th situation. I will honestly say, because my mind is a bit boggled at the moment, I hope all things work out in your favor. Live your life and go for what you want at any age or any time and place. Obstacles and tribulations come and go. No matter what the situation may be, you'll be fine. But that doesn't go for any old person. there are just some people in the world who don't deserve good things to come their way, but you seem like a decent person, so I wish the best for you. *By the way, the story you wrote has some beautiful parts in it, almost seemed like a fantasy, but It was a interesting reading and I enjoyed the sweet parts.*
That's a tough situation, its hard because whenever you are close to someone, its alwaysstarts with friendship, often that is the hardest thing to let go of .. but if you are finding it difficult to be friends because he wants to get back together and you dont, perhaps for your own sake as well as his its better not to have any contact, that might sound harsh but in the long run you and he will be happier because you both will be able to properly move on. that being said i really do wish you the best of luck
i think yu shuld give it another try.


lyk u said..yur 13 ryte? yu got tyme %26lt;3
wow. i cant believe i actually read all that lol.


to be honest i think your best without him. it just hurts now because your not fully over him. i think as soon as you find another guy you will stop feeling so protective over him and will be able to move on. i dont think you two can just 'be friends' however, there's to much between you. and you said yourself it feels weird.


my advice is to try and stop seeing him even as friends, date some more guys and move on.

How do you become friends with your ex boyfriend?

me %26amp; him went out for like six or seven months %26amp; i really loved %26amp; liked him but he liked %26amp; loved me way more than i did... %26amp; i was really scared to get close to someone %26amp; losing them again %26amp; i broke his heart by saying if he doesnt get me pregant than were braking up but i didnt really mean it i just said it cause i tried every other excuse to brake up with him %26amp; it didnt work.... so now he wont even talk to me.... how do i get him to talk to me again %26amp; what would i say?! =/How do you become friends with your ex boyfriend?
he really liked u. stop ******* with his heart. he deserves a better friend than u.








no advice for u. u suck

Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?

How would you feel if your ex (that you were with for over 4 years and have a child with) and your best friend (whom you are the godmother to her child, and have done so much for and always been there for her and helped her) had sex? Would you feel awkward or weird about it? Would you be pissed? Would you still want to be friends with your best friend? Do you think that's a boundary that shouldn't be crossed?





I'm in a new relationship of almost 9 months with an amazing man that I love very much, and no longer have feelings for my ex, but we remain close since we have a 1 year old daughter. My best friend and I have known each other for over 6 years and been through a lot together. Yet she takes more than she gives in our friendship. I found out from my ex that they went on a date a few weeks ago and when I asked her about it (I was being friendly and even joking a bit when I asked so she wouldn't be uncomfortable) she denied it was a date and said she'd made it clear to him that they were just friends. She then told me over the next week about two men she slept with in that week alone. Two nights ago, my ex told me they had sex after going on a third date. I have not spoken to her about this. I feel very awkward and weird about it and part of me doesn't like it. If she had come to me and talked to me about it, I would have told her it was okay even though it bothered me somewhat but I feel that she should have at least had the respect to talk to me about it first. Plus she's lied to me about it, and is hiding this from me.





Please note that I do not have feelings for my ex anymore, and I understand that he is free game, I just feel that my best friend shouldn't be messing with my ex, especially since we still have to be such big parts of each others lives because of our baby. And I don't think best friends should do that to each other. I would never sleep with any of my friends ex's out of love and respect. Plus, she tells me all the time she wants another baby since her only child is now 3 and a half, and she misses her being so little, and that if she gets pregnant, she will keep it no matter what and she doesn't care who she has one with, so that has me worried that she's using my ex to get pregnant. She also has a horrible track record and constantly tells me she's worried she has an STD I think they both should have considered my feeling on this. If it was my friend and any other man, or my ex and any other girl I wouldn't give two shits, but it's my ex and supposed best friend. I just feel bothered. Any advice?Would it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
i would bother most people


it like for girls i guess it a rule you cant date your friends ex's


even if you dont have any feelings for himm anymore


it natural to be bother.you still dated him and did have a child together


your friend should know better.


i think she would be bother if it was the other way aroundWould it bother you if your ex and best friend had sex?
Do you have ownership over him or her? No.


Sounds like your friend is a whore anyway, so her sleeping with your ex shouldn't surprise you. Get over it. You've obviously an adult... act like it.
to be honest, I had this ex I was with for 3 years, no kids. this best friend I knew for 6 years. even though I was broken up with my ex she slept with him.


I think it is wrong and I dont think youe best friend reconsiders your feelings. they arent a good friend.


because of this situation I stopped talking to her, she couldnt be trusted.
I am sure she feels more awkward about the situation than you do, which is the probable reason that she lied. Would you not hide embarassing secrets? I would and do.





If she has such a horrible track records with men, then that is her business and not your. Let that go too.





If you ex knows how she acts but slept with her anyway, you can't change his mind anymore than you can change his passions.





The only issue here that is important to you is:


Can you cope with your ex and your friend being together and not respecting boundaries of friendship in this crazy triangle?





P.S. You can cope with it, but you will need to work on it because it will be hard sometimes.
No , she cannot be your true friend. If she has slept with your ex, possibility is that they must be talking or meeting each other from a longer time than you think. They must be discussing things about you. Had it been that she would have been your friend things would have been different, she would have shared this with you before even going on date.





Just stop all relationship with her. before that verify this with her once, because you never know who is playing what game with you.

What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?

my friend is currently ';with'; this guy i used to be in love with and was very angry when i said i would date him if we fell in love again after time went by and she found someone else. she said, 'you dont date your friend's ex!' and unlike her i didnt ever date him. but we were in love with eachother before things fell apart and for a while that meant something to us. how would you interpret 'no dating your friends' ex'? for what reasons? and if she wasnt friends with me until after she dated him does that count against the rule? doesnt it count that i still love him and she's ';with'; him?? it hurts!!What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?
wait so you're friends with the guy you used to be in love with's girlfriend now, but you two weren't friends when you were in love with the guy? so like unless you and that guy are soul mates or something don't say you'd be with him if they broke up and he was okay with it. you two are friends and obviously it didn't work out for you and the guy. so if you feel like he's more important than your friendship go on and pursue him. but when he leaves you, or if he doesn't wanna be with you, you're just gonna end up alone wishing you had that friend.What do you think 'no dating your friends' ex' means?
It's not really a rule, it depends on the situation. If you value her friendship more than this guy, then don't date him. You will upset her and possibly lose a friend.





If you want to be with this guy, and you don't care if she gets angry then go for it. You can really do whatever you want as long as you are able to deal with the consequences.
that whole phrase means that you should not date someone you friend has been out with. personally, i think the ';rule'; is stupid. i have a friend who went out with a guy her friend had just broken up with. they turned out to be a great couple.basically what i'm saying is, date who you want.
An ex of any kind means like an ex girlfriend or boyfriend and when your friends with someone they should know or if you still have them in your heart even tho its all over for the relationship part and no dating friends ex's means no dating your friends ex
you don't date your friend's ex, that hurts your friend's feeling. and on top of that, if the guy dates you, it looks like you break them up.





whenever you want to date your friend's ex, you ask if she is ok with that before going out with him.
If you didn't date him, he isn't an ex. That rule doesn't apply to ex crushes. Your friend is doing nothing wrong.
You don't date your friend's ex's out of respect to your friend.





Bro's before Hoe's


Chick's before Dick's
you didnt date him but you guys had a thing so tell her to shove it up her a**. you had a thing with him first
well if your friend is cool with it, it's fine, but if not...you dont date your friend's ex

Is it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?

He actually isn't my ex. We dated until I learned he was still with his exgirlfriend. I broke it off, even though I was crazy about him.





But now my friends give me updates on him...what he did for Christmas, how he looks, etc. I seriously don't want to know because than we end up talking about him and why it didn't work out with us, etc.





Is it rude for me to ask them not to mention him to me?





I just don't want to talk or think about him. I have moved on and really don't care what he is doing 99% of the time. So it just makes it harder because I start thinking about him and suddenly start missing him.





What do you think????Is it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?
I would just tell them how u feel ...... i mean , i wouldnt want to hear about my ex either , really. if they are your friends , they will understand. best of luckIs it wrong to ask your friends to stop talking to you about your ex?
I suggest letting them know how it makes you feel when they talk about him to you. Be sure to tell them that you've moved on, and that he's no longer a part of your life, so you'd prefer to not hear about him.





If you tell your friends upfront (politely), they will respect your request and back off.





Hope things work out for you!